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Tonight was _stellar_.

I didn't necessarily expect it to be. But the dances for demo team are coming along pretty well and I had a nice time there. Dancing with my dance-sis¹ is often a really good experience, and tonight felt really good...of course, part of what felt so stunning there was the bit of Village Reel, a dance we have done together literally hundreds of times for candidate class.

Then I went straight from demo team to BIDA! I started by sitting on the steps outside and eating a granola bar, since I know myself, and I know that while I can and often do enjoy contra dancing, I also sometimes get too snobbish for it and have less fun than I would if I could more easily turn off some of the more precision-oriented bits of my brain and just vibe. Eating beforehand will _definitely_ move the needle away from "grouch"² and back towards "enjoyable dance friend". Eating a granola bar on the steps of BIDA means apparently quickly chatting with three different friendly acquaintances. Good shit!

I finished my food and went in to dance! And the dance...oh man! The band we had was called Countercurrent and _holy shit_. I am incredibly charmed to have looked up their website and found a blurb saying "How does so much music come from just two people?!” because I pretty much said exactly that somewhere in my second dance through.

I like dancing because I like moving, and the ways in which I can dance require pretty much any kind of music, including none at all. But it is a truth universally recognized that the better the music gets, the easier it gets. And this band was absolutely in the category of better. So I was set up already to have a very good time of things (from community and friends and loved ones) and then and then _and then_ it was just absolutely knocked out of the park by a caller who knew what he was doing, calling dances well that were interesting and fun, and accompanied by a band that repeatedly distracted me away from just dancing because they were _so good_ to listen to.

I am pleased to be trying to fit BIDA in on some Sundays after demo team, even if that does make for quite a lot of dancing. I know not every week will be this good, but I am so happy to have gotten this energy and joy to take me through this next week of work. I hope you are also finding things to make you happy!

~Sor
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1: For the first round of candidte class, the five of us decided we were siblings. So I have three dance -sisters and a dance brother. They're good people and I love them!

2: A (male) friend of mine was talking about a contra behavior that made him "grouchy" and while talking further I said something about my own responses to the same behavior being "bitchy" and I realized that that's a cruel word for many reasons. But actually, I think grouchy is absolutely the word I mean a lot of the time when I say I'm feeling bitchy, and so I'm gonna try and get serious about dropping the b-word from my vocabulary, because sluring women is kinda not cool and I shouldn't get away with it just because I caucus with them sometimes.

Content Warning: Gender Essentialism like _whoa_

Intro: Anne wrote this with a little bit of my help in our last day of Gym. I mostly agree with it. We made it for all the clueless guys out there who need it. Keep in mind that these are her words, not mine. *grin*

Except where I provide the usual annoying comments.

The Truth about Girls:
(The help for guys who are too dumb to figure it out on their own.)

1) Every girl has the potential to be a bitch. It doesn't matter how nice she normally is, how pretty she is, if she goes to church, or even if shes madly in love with you. She will be a bitch at one point or another. Girls are just made to be like that. (Hey!) Oh yeah, and blame it on PMS in your mind if you have to, but if they tell you otherwise, -belive them.

2) Girls want you to be mind readers. They get pissed off at little things you say, the things you do, even the way you walk. The simple solution: Buy your girl roses, take her out to a nice dinner, and then to a chick flick. (unless she doesn't tend to like chick flicks.)

3) All girls like to be romanced to at one point or another. They like to feel special. Look them in the eye when you speak to them. Sing to them. Write them poetry. You could be saying the cheesiest line, but if you look her dead in the eyes, she'll melt. (With laughter! I mean...Yeah...she'll melt...)

4) If a girl really likes you, she'll hug you even if you're sweaty. (especially if she relies on hugs to keep her brain from falling out.)

5) Girls like to complain. They need to vent. Don't take what they say during this time personally. They just need to be angry to get it out oftheir system.

6) All girls have an inner slut that needs to come out. (some girls more then others.) So don't get weirded out if you're practically having sex one night, and she won't let you touch her the next.

7) Girls like it when you know things. Sneakily find out her favorite everything: (Or just take the direct route and ASK her) flowers, candy, color, singer, etc. Use it when buying presents. Also, remember the importants: Birthday, anniverserys, etc. A good way to do this is to write it on the calender then circle/heart it. Girls love that. IMPORTANT: Notice her hair/eye color, and when she cuts her hair/dresses up really nice, comment on how nice she looks.

Annes Disclaimer: This is girls in general. Each girl has her own specific list of a hundred or so personal rules. Good luck.

Kats Disclaimer: In case you didn't guess, this also relatess almost exclusivly to romantic relationships.

P.S. NEVER MENTION WEIGHT AROUND A GIRL!! IF SHE BRINGS IT UP, SHE IS *BEAUTIFUL* JUST THE WAY SHE IS, AND YOU WOULDN'T CHANGE HER FOR THE WORLD!!

~Sorceress/Kat, except it was mostly written by Anne, so her too.

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