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I went under the knife today. I've had a lump on the back of my head that's been growing, slowly, for about 2 years. Today I had a surgical excision to remove it.

Stock photo of many with head wrapped in bandage

I asked if they'd bandage up my head like a mummy. They said they'd think about it, but then declined due ot the location. They said the bandages would have to go around my eyes. No mummymaxxing, apparently.

Bandage on the back of my head after surgical excision of a pilar cyst (Mar 2026)

Instead I just a have a patch on the back of my head. The actual bandage is about 2" across. It looks a lot larger because of the adhesive patch to stick it to hair. Underneath there are stitches closing a surgical site a bit over an inch long.

What the doctor removed is likely a pilar cyst, a mass of hair follicles. It was 31x32mm in size. It's most likely benign and was not infected but was starting to become painful. Like, not painful most of the time since I'm a side-sleeper, but whenever I had to rest my head against a flat surface... ouch. Plus, I wanted them to remove the lump so they could test it in case it's not benign. It's being sent to the lab for testing now.

This puts the kibosh on going anywhere to celebrate retirement for at least the next week. The doctor's orders are no exertion, no lifting more than 10 lbs., and no submerging my head in water. The bandage I'm wearing I'll replace at home after 2 days, and I'll return to the clinic next Monday to have the stitches removed. The list of do-nots holds for 2 weeks.

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[personal profile] sovay
Rabbit, rabbit! To inaugurate the spring month, it snowed flurrily all yesterday morning. This afternoon we are flooded with freezing sun. I can't believe Purim is already upon us. So many names need to be blotted out.

As of the start of the month, I seem to have had over a hundred-dollar drop in my Patreon membership without any notification of a mass die-off in subscriptions. Any suggestions on interpreting this deficit would be appreciated since it is my only steady source of income at the moment and we are so broke.

I am still feeling in something of a mental blast crater about the news. I have spent my afternoon on the phone. [personal profile] rushthatspeaks who also spent his afternoon on the phone is coming over and we are going to lie on the couch and complain about doctors and lawyers. And business executives.

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(Title comes from Pat Califia’s highly relevant essay, “The Limits of S/M Relationship, or Mr. Benson Doesn’t Live Here Anymore.”)

Rogan: Mac has been wanting a date night since Boskone, and we chose the gay leather biker flick, Pillion! We saw it on a triple date with other kinky queer friends of ours, and it generated many conversations!

My initial biggest question was, can Alexander Skarsgard convince me he’s a gay leather biker? SPOILERS )

Taxes: Filed

Mar. 1st, 2026 09:04 pm
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I finished my taxes today and filed the returns. I'd actually mostly finished 2 weeks ago— hooray for getting my 1099s in a timely fashion this year!— but held off until now just in case one of my banks that sent a 1099 on time for once followed up with a corrected 1099, late. 🙄 And they still could, but at this date I feel the chance is low enough to move forward.

This year is the 13th year I've filed my taxes with the help of Intuit TurboTax. At least I think it's 13 years. I keep track mostly by making new Batman-slaps-Robin memes every year, and last year was 12 years. 🤣 Speaking of, here's my latest, even newer than the one I created last month:

After years of an abusive relationship with Turbo Tax I've learned to live with it (March 2026)

Why the Batman-slaps-Robin meme? It's because I've always had a love-hate/abusive relationship with TurboTax. TT wronged me in the distant past. I tried to leave but found it was harder going it alone than dealing with a partner who'd never have an adult conversation with me about Passive Activity Loss Limits or the Foreign Tax Credit. So I returned to TT's bitch-slapping arms, taking steps to protect myself and knowing I'd have to sneak around to get my fill of adult conversation. (Bonus meme links: My 2024 edition, 2023, 2022, 2021.)

This year TT had some new abusive topics for me. "IS THIS A QUALIFIED SECTION 199(a) BUSINESS?" it demanded. "YES OR NO?" I couldn't file my forms without answering the question. There was no option for "Help me choose" or "WTF is a qualified Section 199(a) business, anyway?" Years of practice in this relationship gave me confidence do dodge over to another browser window, search on the topic, check sources to support the AI powered answer, and then smoothly tell TT like I hadn't even just phoned a friend, "YES!"

gray all around

Mar. 1st, 2026 08:57 pm
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Lots of snow here. Some good bird sightings: eagles on their big nest in the tree by the river, bluebirds, an oriole, and some sandhill cranes.

I've been having a new and different back pain. I finally realized that I've been sleeping on a saggy surface, so I moved to the floor on a foam cushion. Ah! Much better. But I need to buy a new bed, which is a chore I do not look forward to doing.

Still reading the correspondence between George Sand and Gustave Flaubert. The letters written during the Franco-Prussian war (1870-1871) express their grief over the destruction, fear for their country and the people they love, and anger at the poor leadership. Much of what they say could apply to our current situation. They both write in an expressive way that I enjoy.

I have exercised consistently for 13 weeks. This is remarkable because I am old and unwell.

I've been watching the Korean talk show "Happy Together," It's funny and sometimes touching.

Thank you for your posts, which allow me to live vicariously.

yesterday

Mar. 1st, 2026 09:54 pm
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I went to NYC to be a tourist for a couple of hours* and then ring bells. Amtrak each way. While I was reading the news on the way, I learned of the planned protest in Times Square at 2 PM, but that was when I was scheduled to be getting to Trinity Church, 3 miles away, so I skipped it and didn't do any protesting yesterday. Only about 1000 people did go, according to news on the web. It did seem to me that people were doing fun or other useful things while it was sort of spring-like outside, but I would have expected more.

*Takeout "tofu cupbap" from a ramyeon place in a food court on 32nd Street, eaten at a parklet table on a definitely not broad part of Broadway. Nice exhibit at the Museum at FIT. Jazz trio in a real park. long walk.
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It's been a while since I've checked in on my blogging. My last remark on the topic was noting in mid-January that I'd blogged 30 days in a row. Well, good news/bad news in that vein....

Good news: I extended that streak of writing at least once a day to 62 days.
Bad news: The streak ended when I missed a day on Feb. 21. I then had another missed day on the 27th.

Looking at the month of February 2026 in full:

  • I posted 42 journal entries
  • That hits my intermediate goal of averaging 1.5 blogs/day.
  • It's my best month since September '25, before I hit a slump in October.

Am I over my slump of the previous 4 months? Yes and no. The main thing that drove my uptick in blogging this past month was playing D&D. I posted twelve journals about D&D in the month. Without that February would've been as much a slump as October was. Will playing D&D continue? Unclear. I want to, but at the moment the challenge— as always— is finding time that works for everyone. I proposed last week that we play this weekend, and my players quickly drove the negotiation out to whether or not we can play in 3-4 weeks time.

As for what got me into a slump with blogging starting back in October.... Two big factors were the seasonal slowdown in outdoors adventures as winter weather came on, coupled with us having to stand down from travel due to Hawk's two surgeries. Both of those surgeries are in the rear view mirror now, and she's recovering well— though still weeks away from being fully healed. Plus, the weather is getting nicer now. Plus— bonus!— I've just retired, so we have way more free time to do fun things that are worth writing about. This would seem to augur more blogging ahead. But....

...But the other problem I highlighted in October was the DFC problem. I just don't care. The past week as I've stared at my keyboard I've mused to myself, "Do I even care anymore?" I don't know if I do. I hope I'll see my spirits lift when I get more active again.

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Of his foreshortened filmography, David Farrar was right to class Cage of Gold (1950) with his three films for Powell and Pressburger. He would never again be as luscious onscreen as he had been as the louche and irresistibly uninterested Mr. Dean of Black Narcissus (1947) or even as bitterly vulnerable as the self-dodging Sammy Rice of The Small Back Room (1949), but neither had he been asked to splash out his saturnine charm like Bill Glennon, the cornucopia of post-war shadow sides who fascinates this Ealing blend of domestic and underworld noir even when it knows, like his string of cross-Channel women, better.
 
Even in his era's extensive catalogue of damaged veterans, Bill is a disturbing shape-shifter, a violet-eyed spiv who can sit for his medal-ribboned portrait only half ironically as "St George, World War Two." Airmen were so heroized during the war itself, it feels like an especially provocative tilt at a generation of odeon myths to leave uncomfortably open whether this decorated wing commander became a crook after the war because it damaged him too badly to settle to civvy street or whether he made such a successful flyer because he was an amoral adrenaline junkie to begin with and whether it even matters when the results either way are this gorgeous, destructive, at once worldly and immature man. "I ask about your plans, you make a joke about the atom bomb." He romances the gamine artist of Jean Simmons' Judith Murray in a whirl of air shows and nights on the town as if incarnating the RAF-struck fantasies of her adolescence and leashes the cosmopolitan chanteuse of Madeleine Lebeau's Marie Jouvet with a bluntly demon lover's alternation of vanishing acts and the most incredible sex. The jeweled wristwatch that circulates among them does more than symbolize his inconstant attentions, it underscores his loose-ended opportunism, the streak of nihilism in his pleasure-seeking that can distract itself mid-scheme with a tastier prospect and cut and run from either at a moment's expedience. "Sweetheart, to live you have to have money. If your only trade is shooting down aeroplanes, you have to make it the best way you can." In the age of the welfare state, he's a creature of the unrepentant war, inseparable from its reckless glamour and threat: James Donald as the romantically second-run Dr. Alan Kearn labors with thankless conscientiousness for the future of the nascent NHS, but the blackout dazzle of Bill never appears except out of one past or another, the repressed on a perma-return ticket. What's the Time? glowed the legend of the world clock at Piccadilly Circus underneath which he was introduced transacting some elliptically clipped business that in hindsight cannot have been remotely legit, considering that bigamy and blackmail comprise merely two of his offhand income streams. His last words which for a twist sound like true ones will reach us through the spectral double exposure of memory. Of course his talent for inconvenient reappearance includes from the dead. Farrar had such bodily presence as an actor, Bill can't be too ghostlike when his dark-tousled, tweed-slouched figure commands the most venal conversations with the look of a raffish don, but he is elusive for such a comprehensive rotter, never once given the socially soothing out of a psychological explanation or even a total write-off. Just as it would have been nicer of the film to smooth the anxieties of his criminal present by revealing a past to match, it's nastier of it to suggest that he may retain some real feeling for the woman he's improvised into a badger game, which doesn't make it untrue. "Judy and I have a thing for each other that takes some breaking. We always had. You should know that."
 
Cage of Gold was produced and directed by the indispensable Michael Relph and Basil Dearden and while its preoccupation with the war's ambivalent legacy could be taken to point toward the social problem cycle for which their post-war collaborations became best known, it's also a fluid and full-tilt showcase for the British noir style. The screenplay by Jack Whittingham hinges its split modes so cleverly together—a criss-cross of perspectives that could each have formed their own, more conventional crime melodrama—that the film can't help but deflate when it converts in its last fifteen minutes into a much more forthright procedural with the introduction of Bernard Lee's Inspector Gray, but until then it seems to delight in laying down one immaculately expressionist set-up after another like the surge of commuters that sluices a pair of not yet lovers into one another's fateful, Tube-crowded arms. The elfin legend of Léo Ferré accompanies the star attraction of La Cage d'Or within a self-referentially gilded set that turns by dressed-down day into a vorticist rattan of shadows. The lid of an overboiled kettle chatters like the tremble of a pistol whose barrel telescopes with the steam-shriek into the circular blare of an impatient car horn. Even locations as familiarly establishing as the Albert Bridge or the Arc de Triomphe can flip in the hard-lit lens of DP Douglas Slocombe into a luminous mews of fog or an implicitly chthonic gate, as fast as the whip-timed cutting of Peter Tanner can slam a telephone's last word on the emptily curling smoke of a suicide. An abortion is discussed as frankly as the sign in a register office wearily requests, "Confetti must not be used in these premises." The joke about the wireless that pits the Third Programme against "comics and crooners" has faded to period detail, but it still feels sharp for Judy's stomach to turn at the gleefully untouchable misdeeds of Mr. Punch. The supporting cast of Herbert Lom, Harcourt Williams, Gladys Henson, and Grégoire Aslan occasionally feel heavyweight for their screen time, but Simmons offers more than a beautiful target as her pixieish innocence slowly cools and Lebeau is stealthily less decorative than her devoted role, though the demands of reliable virtue leave Donald with little to show until he's caught polishing the prints off a crime scene. With one speculatively raked brow, Farrar dominates and he should, magnetically troubling, unresolved to the end. "She had everything I ever really wanted except money." I am in the wrong region for the restored Blu-Ray, but it's not unwatchable on the Internet Archive and certainly clearer than it looked on the former TVTime where I discovered it four years ago and it seemed to have been heavily stepped on. Even so, not unlike its antihero, it haunted me. This thing brought to you by my wanted backers at Patreon.

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Mar. 1st, 2026 12:07 am
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[personal profile] sorcyress
I suppose I need to write my words, but what I would like to be doing is continuing my knitting project and watching Um Actually.

(Um Actually has been _great_ background television for me, lo these many moons. It's exciting when I can get something right --I was particularly proud of a recent "needs more pixels" where I actually got the right answer on first round and none of the contestants managed after several-- and it's easy to just enjoy when it's not things I particularly know.)

My vague sense for myself is "maybe I shouldn't have more than like three knitting projects on needles at the same time" which doesn't actually play well with my ADHD popping back and forth between things constantly. It feels like I should try and consistently have "something I can easily throw into a bag and work on wherever" in addition to "something I need to concentrate on in mostly one location". Finishing projects is going to remain the hardest part.

Current projects:

*A chaos scarf for my sister, because she was one of the two family members who actually honored my christmas list request of "tell me what you would like me to make you for next christmas". Mom's is more complicated, and I need to do more toruses before I'll be able to ask her for measurements, but Al very cutely was enthusiastic about my hideous nightmare chaos scarf that was the whole reason I got into this nonsense in the first place. Okay, sure, I can make you a scarf, scarves are great!

So far I have decided to make it difficult for myself in multiple different ways. But the nice thing about "make a twelve foot scarf with whatever random yarns come your way" is that I can just work on it forever.

*A book cover for my ereader. This is one hundred percent "I don't want to learn how to read patterns so I will design my own concept of fucking around". I had to frog like half of it because I didn't _quite_ have enough yarn to do the whole thing with my ancient remaining stash of candy-corn yarn, so I had to obtain a new ball in a similar colour. I'm increasingly close to actually done, but there's definitely a hard part I want to finish with that I have no idea if it's even possible to do. The candy-corn yarn is officially my "practice swatching things" yarn though, so I want it back, so eventually I'll just...do whatever nonsense I am gonna and be done with it. (do hard things badly).

*Wee tiny proof-of-concept swatch for a "I'm pretty sure this is how you do the thing" idea. It's also my first practice using my size 1 needles, which is very important practice to have if I'm going to try making socks, which I would probably like to do.

Future problems include "I dunno man, I'm just doing this because it's better for my mental health than playing shitty phone games" and "kilt hose". Cabling is obviously something I have to learn how to do at some point and goddamnit why is it only just now occuring to me that obviously I eventually need to have kilt hose with blue lines on them, what a delicious variety of nerd. Fuck. I'll write it in the file.

Anyways, that's where I'm at. Hope you are well!

~Sor
MOOP!

LB's favorite zines!

Feb. 28th, 2026 05:53 pm
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[personal profile] lb_lee
Mori: [personal profile] witchpoetdreamer asked us about a list of our favorite zines. FOOLISH FOOL HAS ACTIVATED MY TRAP!

For this post, we are using "zine" here to mean "a floppy booklet (lacking a spine) that is either self- or small-published, and also NOT from an academic journal NOR just a comic." It can have comics IN it, or mash-up image and text in other, more experimental ways (such as the classic cut-and-paste style of zine), but it can't be primarily comics or we will be here for all eternity.

HERE WE GO! ALL ABOARD THE ZINE MACHINE, Y'ALL!

It's Warm. And Dry.

Feb. 28th, 2026 04:40 pm
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It's been warm here the past few days. On Friday the weather app said it reached 78° in Sunnyvale, though I measured 81° (27 C) when I was out just after 2pm. Today it's warm again with a reading of 79°.

I wish I could say I've done something special with the warm weather but... I haven't. Other than enjoy it. Today I even dressed in shorts and a short-sleeved shirt for the first time in over 4 months.

Along with being warm it has also been dry. We haven't seen rain in several days. And the 10 day forecast shows no rain in the near future... though the warm weather will subside as temperatures return closer to normal— normal being a still not-sucky 62° high at this time of year.

The possibility that this could be "it" for the rainy season this winter is a bit concerning. (Why is it concerning? It's concerning because the threat of DROUGHT looms over California and its 40 million residents nearly every year.) A recent report from the California Department of Water Resources says the Sierra snowpack is at just 66% of normal water equivalent for this time of the season. It's a mixed report, though, as some major reservoirs are over 100% right now. It seems like we'll be fine this year, drought-wise, even if there's no more rain/snow until next winter, but we'll have little buffer going into next year.

2026 March Fan Poll

Feb. 28th, 2026 05:51 pm
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[personal profile] lb_lee
Hey everybody, it's that time again: time to vote for which stuff gets the LiberaPay/Patreon money this month!

As always, anyone can vote (please do!), but LiberaPay and Patreon patrons get double weight for their votes.  (Due to Patreon's porn purges, I really encourage you to use LiberaPay, if you get a choice.) If you want to see the blurbs for any of these works, those are here!  (You can also leave your requests there; requesting a story or essay is always free!) If you don't have a DW and so can't do the poll, that's okay; just leave your vote in the comments below; anon comments are turned on.

Which works gets the money, and thus posted this month?  YOU CHOOSE, readers!
Poll #34303 2026 March Fan Poll
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 16


Did you toss LiberaPay/Patreon money my way last month?

View Answers

Yes (my votes count double)
4 (100.0%)

What writing gets posted this month?

View Answers

Infinity Smashed: Born Lucky
5 (31.2%)

Reverend Alpert: the Traveling Exorcist
1 (6.2%)

Henchwench for Hire (F/F supervillainy)
1 (6.2%)

Rutless (trans omegaverse porno)
4 (25.0%)

Kayfabe in the Coliseum (psuedo-Greco-Roman gladiator fights)
3 (18.8%)

Psychodrama and Realitymashing (essay)
13 (81.2%)

What art/comic/zine gets posted this month?

View Answers

Cult Comix (doodle strips of Cultiples BS)
2 (13.3%)

Death Watch (bony lady comic)
6 (40.0%)

Protection (one-page dark side of protector duty)
3 (20.0%)

Thrown Away
2 (13.3%)

Sneak Attack! (cutesilly Mori/Rawlin one-page comic)
9 (60.0%)

Possessions (text-only poetry zine of haunting incompetently)
6 (40.0%)

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[personal profile] sovay
I have spent the literal entirety of my legally adult life watching the country I was born into try to fait accompli its way into Armageddon and I have to say that it was not an enticing novelty a quarter of a century ago, either.
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[personal profile] leiacat
It all started when my favorite dance historian inquired if we could round up a few folks to do a zoom reading of a play she was asked to choreograph. "Castelvines y Monteses" by the Spanish playwright Lope de Vega - a ridiculously prolific Spanish contemporary of Shakespeare's, and based on the same plot as R&J.

details within )

My only regret is that some folks did not get to come out and see it. I'm ludicrously proud of this project, and it's such a unique opportunity of a text that I'm sad that most of the world's population is unaware of it.

Next up: a year stage managing and producing in a row, commencing with Oscar Wilde's Salome directed by NoLabels as a tribute to the 1990s.

important vulture updates

Feb. 27th, 2026 11:01 pm
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[personal profile] radiantfracture
Did you know vultures are sexually monomorphic? Females and males look so much alike that it's difficult to sex them unless you personally watch one lay an egg (and even then bird genes are delightfully unpredictable). Just another awesome vulture fact I learned from the raptor centre insta.

Further, condors (aka Really Big Vultures) can reproduce via parthenogenesis. Here are some excellent queer bird stickers. I have ordered the asexual condor and the trans kookaburra.

§rf§

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Feb. 27th, 2026 09:44 pm
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[personal profile] sorcyress
Because I do not wish this to be my third consecutive Friday without writing my words (with one bonus missed Sunday, siiiigh)1, I better get these done before getting *too* cozy on the couch. That way, we know from experience, lies sleepiness.

I rounded out my reasonably good-but-exhausting week with a third day that was good-but-weird. I was worried that I was going to be slightly late to school --I ran into Clayton on the path and we walked the back half together, quickly since we knew we were brushing against our contractual start time. Striding around the corner at 7:47 (two minutes after first bell, but still well before final bell), we were startled to find...everyone. Turns out a fire alarm had gone off right around the time of first bell, and so *no one* got into class before about 8:10. Well then.

A couple hours later, I watched in horror as my clock spontaneously fell off the wall and missed hitting a student on the head by 8-10 inches or so. I think that's when I declared that the day had pretty serious Friday-the-thirteenth vibes, despite being a Friday-the-not.

I was able to finish the day without too many hours of distractions, and determined that I would reward myself for a Productive Week with a trip to Make and Mend to poke around. It's the closest I've ever had two visits there (about two weeks), and I was pleasantly surprised by how much churn had occurred, and how many new things were out. My secret plan to obtain every possible knitting needle is going extremely well.

I walked home while chatting on the phone with Veronica, which meant I got to learn her youngest child has the same favourite dinosaur as me (Triceratops, which I decided was my favourite when I was probably pretty close to the age he is now: almost four). I really appreciate that she has initiated an every-other-week or so Friday afternoon call while she's doing daycare pickup. It's always so good to get to know what's going on in her life!

At home I did some important documentation of knitting supplies (so far I have managed to not duplicate any needle sizes, which is _excellent_) and then sat on the bed and listened to music and worked a bit on some of my projects. Hearing voices downstairs, I went down to hang with Rey and her lovely friend Al, who I'd met a few weeks ago and quite hit it off with.

Now they're off to watch the telly downstairs, and I have, as established at the beginning of this post, curled myself up very comfortably on the couch. I have a warm blanket, I have three different knitting projects in reach, I have good conversations going with my sweeties, all is good!

It's still not guaranteed (my brain has been piss of late), but I'm really hoping I make it out to bells tomorrow, since it's been an age. And then I can spend the rest of the day being lazy and quiet and maybe grading and maybe playing video games and maybe knitting. It's a good plan, bront.

I hope you have good plans for this weekend, be they restful or active.

~Sor
MOOP!

1: I don't think I've talked about it. I feel awful. My streak was 1271 days. But right now it is 6 days, and if I finish today it'll be 7, and the way you get to 1271 is by doing 6 or 7 or 8 days in a row, lots of times all strung together. So yeah, "feel awful" but also sanguine.

Never tasted anything like you before

Feb. 27th, 2026 02:26 pm
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[personal profile] sovay
I was supposed to spend the afternoon with my husband and instead I am about to spend it at the doctor's. The one is obviously much preferable to the other. Have a photo I took yesterday when I was out and walking and thought I had a decent chance of doing something human with the end of my week.

Let's talk about Buddy Guy instead*

Feb. 27th, 2026 07:55 am
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[personal profile] lauradi7dw
Tiny desk with Buddy Guy, Miles Caton, and band. Age range almost 21 (MC) to 89.5 (BG). I don't know how the Tiny Desk people decide whom to invite, but the timing is good, because it's only two weeks until the Oscars, and both appeared in the much-nominated "Sinners."



If you watch it on youtube, you can click in a sidebar to donate to support Tiny Desk. But if one clicks, a Google login page shows up. Heck no, I'm not telling google my credit card information, although I suppose it makes sense as youtube is part of google. I'll try to figure out some other way to donate.

* as opposed to ice breaking off in Antarctica, the fact that trans people in Kansas have had their driver's licenses revoked with less than 24 hours' notice, the idea that only some slight moral qualms from folks at Anthropic are keeping us from going full Terminator, Cuba is being starved at our hands, we're about to go to war with Iran, that the ridiculous Casey Means even has a chance to become surgeon general...

Talking to My Mother

Feb. 26th, 2026 08:15 pm
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[personal profile] canyonwalker
I caught up with my mom today about my retirement. Yes, it took days to talk to her about it. Though she might have heard it a few days ago from my sister.

My mom's not the most in-touch person anymore. She lives with my youngest sister, which is probably also the only reason, short of moving to a managed care home, she doesn't perish of self-neglect. She keeps odd hours and doesn't like to answer the phone.

Nobody else in the house answers the phone, either. The landline phone, that is. Everyone else has a mobile phone and views the landline as a laughable anachronism. The landline's there for my mom, who doesn't have a mobile phone and doesn't want one. And despite being the only person in the house who'll use it, she almost never answer it when it rings.

Getting in touch with my mom often involves several steps:

  1. Call the landline phone. Nobody answers.
  2. Often try step #1 again a few hours later, or earlier the next day, with the same result.
  3. Text my sister to ask if they're at home and when mom's even up. Ask her to tell mom to answer the phone.
  4. Sister texts me back a few days later to say mom has tried calling me but keeps getting a busy signal. NOTE: my phone is a cell phone with call-waiting and digital voicemail. Aside from when a system wide failure occurs, callers will not get a busy signal. Mom's dialing the wrong number.
  5. Sister writes my number on a piece of paper for Mom and makes sure she can read it. It's the same number I've had since 2005. It is not one of the older numbers Mom might still have in her address book.
  6. We finally get in touch.


So, we finally chatted today. She's happy for me but also feels old that her kids are now retiring. I get that. I suggested she look at the positive side of it: she's lived long enough to see the first of her kids retire. My dad didn't live that long. He was older than her, but she's now 2 years old than his age at death. I didn't remind her of that. But I did I remind her she's lived long enough to see her first great-grandchild. Of course, that great-grandchild's grandma is my sister. My younger sister.

Becoming Someone I Like

Feb. 26th, 2026 10:42 pm
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Rogan: You know, it's funny. I was looking back through some of the old entries in this blog, about my ridiculous experiences at the 2019 Straight Pride protest and the 2025 Clown March, how I ended up writing my own future with Send In the Clowns. and it just dawned on me: I've become someone I really like and respect.

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