Oh god oh god
Jun. 5th, 2024 10:53 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sorcyressCW: Transphobia
I helped make this survey for this dance group I'm in, and I nobly volunteered to do the data collection for it, and holy fuck.
See, the topic is "what language should we use as a branch to try and be more inclusive". This is, obviously, something I care deeply about (and I'll post my open-letter free response answer to that here in a minute, because I posted it to Facebook and I continue to love y'all more than there.)
The survey has been live for just under two hours. So far I have gotten a comment implying that queer people are the true transphobes (for not thinking women can dance as men?) and another that says we "loud few" are bullies and should go find a different dance form.
I am a fool and the only reason I'm not going to set fire to the entire project right now is the hope that maybe if I take the bad shit now, someone in the future will have a better and easier life, because maybe despite it all we can find some sort of happily ever after and the transphobes will fix their hearts. Or die.
Happy fucking pride month to me.
~Sor
MOOP!
PostScript: The survey is open until June 20th. I'm not gonna obsessively refresh it because like...it turns out obsessing endlessly about gender is a hobby pretty much just for transphobes and the rest of us like movies and DnD and bellringing and actually going out dancing.
EDITED TO ADD @ 1644: Dear AccountabilityClub: I am not going to look at the Psychic Damage Queerphobia Spreadsheet (see #party-in-the-woods for context) until after my date with mek, and ideally not at all the rest of the night. I am going to commit to taking care of myself and being really aware of the fact that reading people saying horrible things about me and mine is bad for my brain, and I need to be prepared to do nice things to/with my brain to balance it.
(For those worried, we're at like 20% of responses disagreeing with "we should have genderneutral terms" and only a few of those have said actively nasty things. But it turns out a few bad apples can make the whole fruit salad taste like shit.)
Content Warnings go both ways. Transphobia above.
I helped make this survey for this dance group I'm in, and I nobly volunteered to do the data collection for it, and holy fuck.
See, the topic is "what language should we use as a branch to try and be more inclusive". This is, obviously, something I care deeply about (and I'll post my open-letter free response answer to that here in a minute, because I posted it to Facebook and I continue to love y'all more than there.)
The survey has been live for just under two hours. So far I have gotten a comment implying that queer people are the true transphobes (for not thinking women can dance as men?) and another that says we "loud few" are bullies and should go find a different dance form.
I am a fool and the only reason I'm not going to set fire to the entire project right now is the hope that maybe if I take the bad shit now, someone in the future will have a better and easier life, because maybe despite it all we can find some sort of happily ever after and the transphobes will fix their hearts. Or die.
Happy fucking pride month to me.
~Sor
MOOP!
PostScript: The survey is open until June 20th. I'm not gonna obsessively refresh it because like...it turns out obsessing endlessly about gender is a hobby pretty much just for transphobes and the rest of us like movies and DnD and bellringing and actually going out dancing.
EDITED TO ADD @ 1644: Dear AccountabilityClub: I am not going to look at the Psychic Damage Queerphobia Spreadsheet (see #party-in-the-woods for context) until after my date with mek, and ideally not at all the rest of the night. I am going to commit to taking care of myself and being really aware of the fact that reading people saying horrible things about me and mine is bad for my brain, and I need to be prepared to do nice things to/with my brain to balance it.
(For those worried, we're at like 20% of responses disagreeing with "we should have genderneutral terms" and only a few of those have said actively nasty things. But it turns out a few bad apples can make the whole fruit salad taste like shit.)
Content Warnings go both ways. Transphobia above.
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on 2024-06-06 01:25 am (UTC)If I were still around I'd be happy to be your musician for your new gender-free class!
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on 2024-06-06 04:21 am (UTC)no subject
on 2024-06-06 11:23 am (UTC)(That's one of the things I liked most about modern western square dancing at MIT, that they had a very strong culture of "learn everything because you never know how you'll get scrambled up by the caller" and I kinda miss it, but also it turns out I really want more adherence to timing of formations, which is not a thing they prioritize.)
Anyways, I know for a fact I'm a better lead at things like swing dance *because* I've also spent time following --I know what it should feel like to receive inputs, which makes me better at giving those inputs well.
~Sor
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on 2024-06-06 11:28 am (UTC)(I mean, the perfect world version is that my class brings in enough bonus income/donations that I can just afford to pay a musician well and I do that. But I don't know yet if I will have that, or have that consistently.)
I need to definitely sit down with a bunch of different musicians and get some perspectives on this.
~Kat
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on 2024-06-07 01:15 pm (UTC)