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Dec. 21st, 2018 11:36 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sorcyressIt's the last day before break! No one is doing anything! I am not enforcing my students in the slightest, except insomuch as they're all in the classroom and I (mostly) haven't let other students come in. (During Calc, a couple young ladies came in for "just five minutes we swear" and were agreeably herded off two or three minutes later when that cluster was getting enthusiastic.)
Work paid for my lunch today, which is good, although I need to remember in the new year that I owe the cafeteria for yesterday's lunch. I just wrote a note to myself to leave on the desk over the break, so that should be fine --even if I don't pay it back immediately post break, I'll get it the next day or two after.
I am always weirdly touched when students talk to me about their future plans, and ask for one-on-one advice or suggestions or help. This happened to me today in the middle of a chaotic Calculus classroom, with Donald Duck in Mathemagic Land playing in the background. I hope I gave the gentleman some good hopes for the future. I like my kids a lot overall, and I want to do good by them.
I also deeply enjoy when students attempt to teach me slang --my Discrete Math kids laugh at me for how often I say "yo" (especially in the context of talking to the IRS), while one of my Calculus kids tried to convince another that it means I'm "one of them". Then they attempted to teach me the meaning of "cuffed"1 which sounds fucking horrifying and I Shared Them Some Thoughts about how to relationship proper. And I asked about "yeet" and found out that...I do not understand what the fuck yeet means, not even a little.
Relaxey days are important to building community and building relationships I think. One of the problems at [Private School]2 was that I swung too far into them (especially pre-election, my juniors there had a LOT of questions and things they wanted to know and we had a bunch of days where I just sorta skipped most of the curriculum.) but I think it's important to remember that it's not bad to have less intense days, or days where the students *can* ask questions and ask about stuff important or interesting or relevant to them, even when it's not directly curriculum related.
~Sor
MOOP!
1: It seems to be in the sort of relationship where it's you and your partner and y'all are so serious that you don't have any other friends [of the desired gender?]
2: I actually wrote the name of the school before I remembered that I don't share the explicit places I work in public-facing internet. Whoops. I have probably slipped up with Dream Job at least a dozen times, really. But I try! If you read this and think "huh, I don't actually know where Sor works" then that's a success for me, and thank you.
Work paid for my lunch today, which is good, although I need to remember in the new year that I owe the cafeteria for yesterday's lunch. I just wrote a note to myself to leave on the desk over the break, so that should be fine --even if I don't pay it back immediately post break, I'll get it the next day or two after.
I am always weirdly touched when students talk to me about their future plans, and ask for one-on-one advice or suggestions or help. This happened to me today in the middle of a chaotic Calculus classroom, with Donald Duck in Mathemagic Land playing in the background. I hope I gave the gentleman some good hopes for the future. I like my kids a lot overall, and I want to do good by them.
I also deeply enjoy when students attempt to teach me slang --my Discrete Math kids laugh at me for how often I say "yo" (especially in the context of talking to the IRS), while one of my Calculus kids tried to convince another that it means I'm "one of them". Then they attempted to teach me the meaning of "cuffed"1 which sounds fucking horrifying and I Shared Them Some Thoughts about how to relationship proper. And I asked about "yeet" and found out that...I do not understand what the fuck yeet means, not even a little.
Relaxey days are important to building community and building relationships I think. One of the problems at [Private School]2 was that I swung too far into them (especially pre-election, my juniors there had a LOT of questions and things they wanted to know and we had a bunch of days where I just sorta skipped most of the curriculum.) but I think it's important to remember that it's not bad to have less intense days, or days where the students *can* ask questions and ask about stuff important or interesting or relevant to them, even when it's not directly curriculum related.
~Sor
MOOP!
1: It seems to be in the sort of relationship where it's you and your partner and y'all are so serious that you don't have any other friends [of the desired gender?]
2: I actually wrote the name of the school before I remembered that I don't share the explicit places I work in public-facing internet. Whoops. I have probably slipped up with Dream Job at least a dozen times, really. But I try! If you read this and think "huh, I don't actually know where Sor works" then that's a success for me, and thank you.
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on 2018-12-22 04:43 am (UTC)Aaaagh no how would you even function.
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on 2018-12-22 10:14 am (UTC)no subject
on 2018-12-22 02:05 pm (UTC)Maybe in certain subcultures but not generally.
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on 2018-12-22 06:52 pm (UTC)It's not the cis/het/mono norm I was raised with and it doesn't track with the cis/het/mono marriages I know, so if it's a recently valorized model of relationship, I'd wonder if it's part of the same cultural backlash that has produced gender reveal parties and a pink-and-blue gap far exceeding the gender differentiation of toys of my childhood. It does share stereotypes and pitfalls with that norm, like the idea that romantic love is all-exclusive and self-sufficient, but then it seems to exceed them in the idea that fidelity means not even having friends-of-a-gender-you-might-be-attracted-to, which strikes me as weirdly Christian fundamentalist, like our vice president who never spends time alone with a woman he's not married to. I'm horrified by gender reveal parties, too.
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on 2018-12-23 12:48 am (UTC)And huh, gender reveal parties are cultural backlash? I'd assumed they were just capitalism finding a way to make money off one more thing.
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on 2018-12-22 04:52 am (UTC)m: I have less idea what that means every time I see it
m: I'm suspicious that that's the point
g: Yep
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on 2018-12-22 01:53 pm (UTC)no subject
on 2018-12-22 02:16 pm (UTC)So, I've never heard of "cuffed" before, but yeah that sounds horrifying. The most interesting thing here to me seems to be that this apparently isn't a religious thing; I've seen some religious groups which have similar norms. For example, among very religious Jews there's something like a similar ethos; among some of the Ultra-Orthodox community, a married person talking to another married person cannot say/write something like "and my regards to your spouse" but instead has to use a circumlocution involving their own spouse wishing to pass on their regards to the other person's spouse.
But this is a good example that really disfunctional relationship ideas like this can arise in essentially secular contexts. (Curiously Urban Dictionary which is the Most Reliable Source Ever seems to think cuffed just means in an exclusive relationship https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cuffed ).
If we use it in the form "cuffing" it sounds like something dangerous teens are doing. Maybe we can start a moral panic over that. "Teens are now engaging in what they call cuffing. Tune in at 10 PM to find out about this new craze and why educators are worried."