my impression is that it's the cis/het/mono norm for relationships/marriage?
It's not the cis/het/mono norm I was raised with and it doesn't track with the cis/het/mono marriages I know, so if it's a recently valorized model of relationship, I'd wonder if it's part of the same cultural backlash that has produced gender reveal parties and a pink-and-blue gap far exceeding the gender differentiation of toys of my childhood. It does share stereotypes and pitfalls with that norm, like the idea that romantic love is all-exclusive and self-sufficient, but then it seems to exceed them in the idea that fidelity means not even having friends-of-a-gender-you-might-be-attracted-to, which strikes me as weirdly Christian fundamentalist, like our vice president who never spends time alone with a woman he's not married to. I'm horrified by gender reveal parties, too.
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on 2018-12-22 06:52 pm (UTC)It's not the cis/het/mono norm I was raised with and it doesn't track with the cis/het/mono marriages I know, so if it's a recently valorized model of relationship, I'd wonder if it's part of the same cultural backlash that has produced gender reveal parties and a pink-and-blue gap far exceeding the gender differentiation of toys of my childhood. It does share stereotypes and pitfalls with that norm, like the idea that romantic love is all-exclusive and self-sufficient, but then it seems to exceed them in the idea that fidelity means not even having friends-of-a-gender-you-might-be-attracted-to, which strikes me as weirdly Christian fundamentalist, like our vice president who never spends time alone with a woman he's not married to. I'm horrified by gender reveal parties, too.