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[sorcyress]

If the muse doesn't show up, start without her.

I'm trying. But sometimes it's really hard to be a grown-up. Sometimes there are things I want, and I can't do them until I get done the things I need. Maybe if I were less broken, I wouldn't need so many things (I have gotten more intense about things like covering my body, and being touched, and having a space to hide), but then again, maybe if I were less broken I would also be more young.

At any rate, someday it will all fall into place. Perhaps I just need to start pretending it already has. I just wish I didn't have so far to go, just to feel caught up.

I was driving the other night and didn't have my CDs so I listened to the radio instead. On one station I heard an instantly appealing song...and when it finished, and commercials came on, I flipped the station to hear it playing again.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone

It's a break-up song, but it's a really good one. And break-up songs don't always have to be about love. Sometimes they can be about getting rid of other unhealthy baggage.

(And it's April, traditionally one of the worst months¹ for the whole rape-trigger-memory suckness. I could use some good breakup songs, to get away from it all.)

~Sor
MOOP!

1: They all are. But especially April, and December, and January. And August.

April was when I realized though, and that will never stop feeling like I've been punched in the chest.

Comments

[tirerim]

Somebody That I Used to Know by Gotye is an awesome breakup song. (It's also extraordinarily popular, so you might have already heard it, but I only found out about it a few weeks ago, so maybe not.) The Walk Off the Earth cover is pretty good, too.

Actually, here's the entirety of my breakup music playlist:

Good Day - The Dresden Dolls
Coin Operated Boy - The Dresden Dolls
Never There - Cake
I'm Sorry I Love You - The Magnetic Fields
I Thought You Were My Boyfriend - The Magnetic Fields
The Way Out Of Here - Adam Selzer
The Old Apartment - Barenaked Ladies
I'm Looking Through You - The Beatles
I'm Lonely (And I Love It) - Future Bible Heroes
The Unforgiven II - Metallica
Somebody That I Used to Know (feat. Kimbra) - Gotye
Somebody That I Used to Know - Walk Off the Earth

And, <hug>.

[jannyblue]

At any rate, someday it will all fall into place. Perhaps I just need to start pretending it already has.

Hint: Adults don't usually know what they're doing either. We just fake it better than younger folks. ;-)

You're on the right track, Sorcy.

[harena]

We saw a bumper sticker the other day that read something like "Disguised as a Responsible Adult" and it made me want to make one that reads "I Refuse to Disguise Myself as a Responsible Adult!" ;D

[harena]

Heh, i think you know better than to get me started on the whole Being An Adult thing, right? TOO LATE *ferret cackles*

Well, okay, i'll spare you this time for the most part but mostly to remind you that there is a difference between Being Childlike and Being Childish. But you probly already knew that ;)

*waves her I Refuse To Grow Up button at DarlySor*

And i don't know any good break-up songs off the top of my head, but how about a Clueless-Sardonic (which i've always taken as a humourous look at the situation) Break Up song? In which case, i suggest Michael Penn's Me Around.

. o O (And i hope you you know that i'd never ever ever make fun of it.. this is more of a "gotta laugh or i'll cry" sort of thing)('cause you know i totally have experience with the whole abusive relationship thing)(more than once >.<)

songz

[woozle]

I'm sure I know a lot of them, but I'd never really thought to collect them (I don't do breakups; I do "deep despair and grief over losing very important person", which is fortunately less common than breakups, but there's some overlap).

The Breakup Song, Greg Kihn
"Karma", Jessica Andrews
"Faith", George Michael
"The Whole Truth", Michael Penn
"Footdown", Michael Penn
"You're No Good", Linda Ronstadt
"All Is Forgiven", Jellyfish

I do have a collection of anger/rage songs (collected with politics in mind, but they could probably be interpreted in relationship terms) if you want it.

[soong.livejournal.com]

hey, I've just been collecting breakup songs too.

"I Will Survive" (the version by Cake resonates most strongly for me)
"Fuck You" by Cee Lo Green (possibly the most upbeat and peppy breakup song I know)
"Rolling In The Deep" (yeah, totally mainstream these days with air time and all that, here, have my favorite remix (http://vimeo.com/20057226))
and seconded "Somebody That I Used To Know" and I'm partial to the WOTE version.


(tried to respond at DW, but they're broken. hmpf)

[luckylefty.livejournal.com]

My favorite happy peppy breakup song is "Red Rubber Ball", recorded by the Cyrcle, written by Paul Simon.

...and now I want to choreograph a round dance to "Fuck You" for the sheer futility of writing a dance that no-one will ever cue.

[soong.livejournal.com]

I have danced to "Fuck You" at a Blues dance. It has a wonderfully danceable beat for that. :-)

[kdsorceress.livejournal.com]

I'll cue it! And then everyone will be appalled and I won't be allowed to cue dances ever again. :(

~Sor

[kdsorceress.livejournal.com]

My favourite version of Rolling in the Deep (besides the original which I finally bought and have been listening to OVER AND OVER AND OVER again) is the DJs From Mars mash-up between it and Show Me Love by Robin S.

I really really love Rolling in the Deep right now. It is an obsession spurred in part by square dancing, since we keep doing tips to it.

~Sor

[jere7my.livejournal.com]

I'm not really a big Christine Lavin fan, but Stop Your Sobbing, He's an Idiot is one of the best breakup songs I know. If I haven't played it for you, let me know and I will. Happy dance!