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Jan. 22nd, 2026 07:19 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sorcyressI first read the Geek Social Fallacies at a fairly young and impressionable age, and have always kinda tucked them away in the back of my head as "don't do these things!". Consider it part of my explicit learning how to be Good At Social that I've done (mostly via my mother).
Anyways, GSF#4 ("friendship is transitive") is one that I have apparently rebelled against so hard that it was a genuine and pleasant surprise to see one of the people in my discord server1 refer to another one --someone they've never met in person and only know through that space-- as "friend". Like, I know friend can be a shorthand for a lot of different relationships, I'm not making any assumptions about Serious Intimacy or anything like that.
But gosh, while I can't-don't-won't assume all my friends are going to get along with each other, it's kinda really lovely when they do anyways. It feels good! (Community is good!)
~Sor
MOOP!
1: Free Space Dinosaur is my lovely little discord server. It's a dictatorship, with a strong cultural focus on small personal things instead of broad sweeping conversations. We try to be kind to each other, we try to ask before giving advice, somehow my very very light moderating hand has led to a really lovely little space. If you want an invite drop me a comment!
Anyways, GSF#4 ("friendship is transitive") is one that I have apparently rebelled against so hard that it was a genuine and pleasant surprise to see one of the people in my discord server1 refer to another one --someone they've never met in person and only know through that space-- as "friend". Like, I know friend can be a shorthand for a lot of different relationships, I'm not making any assumptions about Serious Intimacy or anything like that.
But gosh, while I can't-don't-won't assume all my friends are going to get along with each other, it's kinda really lovely when they do anyways. It feels good! (Community is good!)
~Sor
MOOP!
1: Free Space Dinosaur is my lovely little discord server. It's a dictatorship, with a strong cultural focus on small personal things instead of broad sweeping conversations. We try to be kind to each other, we try to ask before giving advice, somehow my very very light moderating hand has led to a really lovely little space. If you want an invite drop me a comment!