The world is cynical right now and we're trapped in a place where liking something genuinely is not as common as liking it ironically. Relationships especially, are all always doomed to fail. You will never just meet your One True Soulmate and true love isn't real, after all.
thanks for articulating that.
liking things ironically, i think, means that people make fun of things. in this case, making fun of people who are in happy relationships, or being in a relationship that you think is doomed to fail is "ironic", most likely, because people are scared. they're scared because the idea of a relationship has changed, and someone can be in a relationship for a very short period of time. it's become some kind of new "norm", and with that "normal" idea comes the "abnormal" idea that people can love each other for a very long time, and not get bored with each other.
to give an anecdote from queer as folk, which is what i'm really into, at the moment: one of the characters has an entire relationship in one night. the characters meet, talk, get to know each other, kind of fall in love but not really, talk about what kind of house they're going to have in the country, and then one of the guys sees another man and decides to go off with him.
because everything in the world has sped up (things change with time), relationships have now sped up, too.
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on 2011-07-23 07:54 pm (UTC)thanks for articulating that.
liking things ironically, i think, means that people make fun of things. in this case, making fun of people who are in happy relationships, or being in a relationship that you think is doomed to fail is "ironic", most likely, because people are scared. they're scared because the idea of a relationship has changed, and someone can be in a relationship for a very short period of time. it's become some kind of new "norm", and with that "normal" idea comes the "abnormal" idea that people can love each other for a very long time, and not get bored with each other.
to give an anecdote from queer as folk, which is what i'm really into, at the moment: one of the characters has an entire relationship in one night. the characters meet, talk, get to know each other, kind of fall in love but not really, talk about what kind of house they're going to have in the country, and then one of the guys sees another man and decides to go off with him.
because everything in the world has sped up (things change with time), relationships have now sped up, too.