As for me, I learned a long time ago that fantasies are useless except as story material. All my daydreams and what-ifs get jotted down and tossed into the (mental or physical) file. What you write down leaves you, kid.
Also: I learned from reading Goosebump-y books as a child that if you don't properly get rid of imaginary friends, they get bitter and come back as evil supernatural beings, and at first you go along with their schemes because you miss them and feel guilty for killing them, and then it turns out they want to get rid of all the real friends you have now, so you have to fight them. And nobody wants that.
I think a good idea might be not just tossing them away, but writing them down. Make stories out of them, whatever, just get them out of your head and onto a piece of paper. There's a difference between just WISHING your fantasies away and properly, respectfully deciding to grow up. Hopefully you can make that decision, or else you'll spend your adult life in a straightjacket.
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ninetydegrees
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on 2006-05-31 08:39 pm (UTC)As for me, I learned a long time ago that fantasies are useless except as story material. All my daydreams and what-ifs get jotted down and tossed into the (mental or physical) file. What you write down leaves you, kid.
Also: I learned from reading Goosebump-y books as a child that if you don't properly get rid of imaginary friends, they get bitter and come back as evil supernatural beings, and at first you go along with their schemes because you miss them and feel guilty for killing them, and then it turns out they want to get rid of all the real friends you have now, so you have to fight them. And nobody wants that.
I think a good idea might be not just tossing them away, but writing them down. Make stories out of them, whatever, just get them out of your head and onto a piece of paper. There's a difference between just WISHING your fantasies away and properly, respectfully deciding to grow up. Hopefully you can make that decision, or else you'll spend your adult life in a straightjacket.
Love,
-Kyu