Well, mostly. Granted, there's no good reason for the men to not dance together for something like a grand march*, but with swing and waltz and such the guys are not anywhere near as likely to be able to follow. [edit: change that to 'trained to.' the learning curve for leading is sufficiently steeper that there's an aspect to that in there as well as whether or not something is 'done.' This is the same reason I'm unlikely to take up leading Argentine Tango. 'cause unlike most other dances there's enough of the learning curve for following that I don't have the spare cycles to move also into leading.]
There's also a matter of the difference between "what is" and "what should be" such that if I pair with a female follow before the guys have found female follows it's far more likely that there will be people sitting out of the next song than if I wait. If I wait, more people dance than if I don't. Sure, it's stupid that more guys don't follow and especially stupid that they don't think to pair together for things that aren't even really lead/follow. but it doesn't make it not true, either.
That all said, I specialize in finding things to feel guilty about.
*and for all I know they'd prefer not to be in the GM at all, although I've been Really Really Bummed to have sit one oiut.
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on 2009-10-20 05:10 pm (UTC)There's also a matter of the difference between "what is" and "what should be" such that if I pair with a female follow before the guys have found female follows it's far more likely that there will be people sitting out of the next song than if I wait. If I wait, more people dance than if I don't. Sure, it's stupid that more guys don't follow and especially stupid that they don't think to pair together for things that aren't even really lead/follow. but it doesn't make it not true, either.
That all said, I specialize in finding things to feel guilty about.
*and for all I know they'd prefer not to be in the GM at all, although I've been Really Really Bummed to have sit one oiut.