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[sorcyress]

So.

I've asked you all Why you like me.

It's time for a new question. Why don't I like myself?

~Sor

Comments

[mommyrex.livejournal.com]

"Familiarity breeds contempt"?

If you knew anyone else as well as you know yourself, you'd probably have some dislike going on there as well. If you are like me, occasionally you realize that you really like something about yourself, but far more often you think about the things that you "should" do better, and the things you can't change, but wish were different.

Loving yourself is a bit like loving anyone else you have to live with all the time ... there are rough patches, and whole seasons of discontent. But far more delicious are the good times and the overall sense of rightness. You are a wonderful you. Love you. When that's hard, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you do love you, even when it's hard to see why.

[ksatyr.livejournal.com]

Seconded.

[leiacat.livejournal.com]

Because it's easy to see every flaw in yourself, even (especially) the ones that nobody else minds. Because it's easier to forgive others their little foibles than yourself. And, it's easier to be annoyed at yourself, because you're there with yourself nearly every moment of every day, and that's a lot of time to get on someone's nerves.

Pretty much everyone feels like that at least sometimes. Luckily, liking yourself is a learnable skill. I hope you find your way to it soon, because you most definitely deserve to be liked, especially by yourself.

[drama-angel3189.livejournal.com]

this reminds me of when some aksed whiether i could be my own friensd. BUt you know all of your secrets and you are the only one who knows all the things you want and wish for but are afriad to ask. And of course you are always with you crizing gevery thing you do, i know i do the same thing.


~V~

[harena.livejournal.com]

i tried to figure out an answer to your question by asking the same question of myself... and what bubbled up was this... i remember a while back when you had posted this thing about how you din't like yourself & it was the first time i had seen that side of you & i was rather flabbergasted 'cause from where i sit, you have tons of friends (all of whom love you), a clone, you do things that you love, you are friendly to weird wee ferrets who wedge their way into your life & try to get adopted by your mother and i was all to Woozle, "how can this be? she sees herself the same way as i see myself! could that mean.. possibly that my view of Myself is also distorted?" and as W grins at me, i had a bit of a paradigm shift.

and now i realize this isn't really answering your question directly & it's kinda ramble-y but i guess the point is that even awesome people can have troubles seeing their own awesome and you, m'dear, are definitely awesome.

[kdsorceress.livejournal.com]

Thanks Harena. This really means a lot to me. *hugs*

~Sor

[astaereth.livejournal.com]

I think the only people who like themselves are the ones who don't even think about it. Most people who think they like themselves (as in, "Look at me! I'm rich and awesome!") are secretly hollow and depressed (look at all the happy celebrities who drown themselves in drugs and sex and booze to try and fill their heart-holes). Nearly everyone else gets to the "I don't like myself" feeling because they've taken the time to know themselves, and found themselves wanting.

Two things, in other words:
1. Your standards are too high. You are one of the most (legitimately) awesome people I know. If you're actually a shitty person, that doesn't bode well for the rest of the world.
2. "The unexamined life is not worth living." The reason you don't like yourself is because you take the time to sit and think, "Hmmm... Who am I? How good am I? Am I doing what I want or need to do?" Chances are, you're better than you think you are just for asking the question.

Actually, I wish I could respond, "Who says you don't?" I'd rather this be a trick question.

it's all psychology, dear heart

[(Anonymous)]

we critters are wired to see our own less-than-awesomeness in perfect clarity but not see it well or at all in others.
KD, this little asymmetry or that subtle foible is what makes you the unique gorgeous awesome individual human bean you are... :}

[madbodger.livejournal.com]

Part of it is that you're in a bit of a rut. I think new horizons will help out, and you're facing a lot of those in the near future, so hopefully you'll be having a lot more fun with your bad self soon. If that's not soon enough, get in touch and we'll brainstorm some bizarre universes.