MOOP!

I'm surprised that some people take the last paragraphs as confirming that the writer is a woman. To me, complaining that people see you as just your orientation and nothing else points to a minority orientation, because being gay is for many people a "master category" if I"m using the sociological jargon correctly. Dejargonizing, it seems much more likely that the author would encounter people who would think "that's Joe; he's a gay man" as though that told them everything about him, than "That's Jane; she's a straight woman".