1) I'm sorry you're jealous. If it's any consolation, I'm terrible at appearing male-at-first-glance. It's only ever happened twice to me, and neither times I was trying for it.
2) That's an interesting way of looking at it. I don't know. I do know I use boy/girl for myself at least in part because from man/woman I infer a level of adulthood I haven't reached. But the idea of identities-vs-roles is intriguing.
3) I'd like to think I don't do this. I don't know. I'm not conscious of ever being upset with my ideals for this reason.
4a) The gain, or rather, the hope, is that someday I'll be able to affect that ideal-femme self without losing my voice. That I'll learn my place, myself well enough to be able to feel more like it matters, like I am not just playing pretend.
You do deserve femininity, in whatever parts you would like or need.
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Re: reactions
on 2011-02-26 08:20 pm (UTC)2) That's an interesting way of looking at it. I don't know. I do know I use boy/girl for myself at least in part because from man/woman I infer a level of adulthood I haven't reached. But the idea of identities-vs-roles is intriguing.
3) I'd like to think I don't do this. I don't know. I'm not conscious of ever being upset with my ideals for this reason.
4a) The gain, or rather, the hope, is that someday I'll be able to affect that ideal-femme self without losing my voice. That I'll learn my place, myself well enough to be able to feel more like it matters, like I am not just playing pretend.
You do deserve femininity, in whatever parts you would like or need.
~Sor