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1On a totally personal level, it's also fascinating to see someone emphasizing the "no homo" as strongly as he is. Because he is a STRAIGHT MAN full of HETERO STRAIGHTNESS who would never dream of looking at a dude in a sexual way, no attraction, none at all. Which means either:
a) he's fucking lying to himself and everyone else because [...] he's not actually willing to recognize that he's a little queer.
b) he does not actually acknowledge or respect my gender and considers me to be a woman.
As gross and homophobic as the first option is, I kinda find myself hoping for it, because like...you know, then it's not personal? Because being misgendered _hurts_. Because I know that there are people who look at me and see nothing but "woman", but damnit, I also know too many people who are trying not to to think that's okay anymore.
I was tweeting the other day about how utterly important it is to have Janet on The Good Place. Because what she does, what she is enabling me (and I am not alone) to do, is say "not a lady", "not a girl", "not a woman", just as a tiny quiet sentence. Not an interruption, just a reminder. Over and over and over and over again until it starts to stick, and you know? With some people it is!
So a reminder to everybody, I'm not a woman. And if you're gonna be attracted to me, you're gonna have to sit with yourself on that one until you figure out how to cope with *your* shit without invalidating *my* existence. I'm not sorry for knowing who I am, and I'm not sorry that I've fucked up your binary worldview. You can cope.
Or you can insist I'm a woman anyways, you can no-homo away your attraction to anyone who doesn't identify as 100% THE FEMALEZ, you can pretend I'm not hot and that you're not actually into me. And you can GTFO of my life, because I don't have space for people who aren't willing to make space for who and what I actually am.
~Sor
MOOP!
1: "Hey Sor, this is kindof an...abrupt..." yeah yeah, well I took out the two paragraphs that made the subtweet explicit. Mostly because the subtweet limits this post to only one person, and actually, this is a bigger problem --men are into me but also DEFINITELY HET and that just tells me they're not actually into *me*. You can be into the idea of me all you want, but the actuality only goes home with people who acknowledge its existence.
a) he's fucking lying to himself and everyone else because [...] he's not actually willing to recognize that he's a little queer.
b) he does not actually acknowledge or respect my gender and considers me to be a woman.
As gross and homophobic as the first option is, I kinda find myself hoping for it, because like...you know, then it's not personal? Because being misgendered _hurts_. Because I know that there are people who look at me and see nothing but "woman", but damnit, I also know too many people who are trying not to to think that's okay anymore.
I was tweeting the other day about how utterly important it is to have Janet on The Good Place. Because what she does, what she is enabling me (and I am not alone) to do, is say "not a lady", "not a girl", "not a woman", just as a tiny quiet sentence. Not an interruption, just a reminder. Over and over and over and over again until it starts to stick, and you know? With some people it is!
So a reminder to everybody, I'm not a woman. And if you're gonna be attracted to me, you're gonna have to sit with yourself on that one until you figure out how to cope with *your* shit without invalidating *my* existence. I'm not sorry for knowing who I am, and I'm not sorry that I've fucked up your binary worldview. You can cope.
Or you can insist I'm a woman anyways, you can no-homo away your attraction to anyone who doesn't identify as 100% THE FEMALEZ, you can pretend I'm not hot and that you're not actually into me. And you can GTFO of my life, because I don't have space for people who aren't willing to make space for who and what I actually am.
~Sor
MOOP!
1: "Hey Sor, this is kindof an...abrupt..." yeah yeah, well I took out the two paragraphs that made the subtweet explicit. Mostly because the subtweet limits this post to only one person, and actually, this is a bigger problem --men are into me but also DEFINITELY HET and that just tells me they're not actually into *me*. You can be into the idea of me all you want, but the actuality only goes home with people who acknowledge its existence.