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[sorcyress]

It feels quite beautiful to me that I have a notes file labeled "burn book" which is for jotting down things I want to remember about people to remind myself why they might rub me the wrong way (to remind myself that I have reasons sometimes and not just vibes¹

1: As a contextual note, it might be worth remembering that I lost the entire last three months of my diary of dating my abusive ex, and have had to piece together some of the "was it really that bad?" since then from trauma-touched memories and chatlogs. It was, I know it was, I remember it was, I wish I had more contemporary sources to draw from sometimes. Anyways.

The beautiful part is seeing the sorts of notes I've written most recently. My work bestie's favourite candy. The name of the girl my online friend's been gushing about. One of my DnD friend's favourite animals. The kinds of cliff bar my new friend with the allergies can actually eat.

I like that my burn book, my place to collect small little notes of things I get told or observe and want to remember, is mostly just so kind.

~Sor

Comments

[keshwyn]

This may be the most joy-inducing thing I've read the entire past week. You rock. What a great idea!

[verdantry]

I used to have a file titled "ur fave is problematic" specifically for keeping track of red flags in people I was dating or interested in, for similar "was it really that bad" (yes, it always was, don't doubt yourself) reasons.

I like your way better, though, and maybe should adjust the reference section of my personal discord.