The safety thing is an excellent point, and it is a subconscious consideration --for all that I am an extremely large-personalitied non-binary pile of spiders, what I *look* like is a much-smaller-than-average adult woman. Who can't hold their liquor.
I didn't really expand on the party rule, but that part there of "a high enough proportion are trusted" is 100% a safety rule --if I don't feel like I know people who will keep me safe "even though I'm drinking", I won't drink.
It helps that almost nothing I participate in is a "drinking event" even though lots of events I go to involve drinking --parties are generally house parties first and "there are drinks" second, Pinewoods is a dance event with drinks, etc. First Friday is about the only thing in my life that is "drinking" as a primary goal, and as stated, I _never_ drink at those.
I'm not particularly worried about the feedback loop of "oh no I am drunk and now it's a good idea to get more drunk" mostly because I start feeling crappy *way* before I start feeling mental effects and almost certainly well before I start being impaired. Fizzy legs do *not* feel good or right, I do not like it Sam-I-Am, and it is damn near immediate for me upon alcohol consumption.
The addiction thing is a mild consideration, although I think my addiction dangers tend to be more mentally triggered than physically. (I am not allowed to own the game Minesweeper, for example, and part of why I don't gamble is exactly this fear, but the physical addiction around alcohol doesn't run in the family and I don't think I'm particularly prone to it.)
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on 2020-08-04 07:40 pm (UTC)I didn't really expand on the party rule, but that part there of "a high enough proportion are trusted" is 100% a safety rule --if I don't feel like I know people who will keep me safe "even though I'm drinking", I won't drink.
It helps that almost nothing I participate in is a "drinking event" even though lots of events I go to involve drinking --parties are generally house parties first and "there are drinks" second, Pinewoods is a dance event with drinks, etc. First Friday is about the only thing in my life that is "drinking" as a primary goal, and as stated, I _never_ drink at those.
I'm not particularly worried about the feedback loop of "oh no I am drunk and now it's a good idea to get more drunk" mostly because I start feeling crappy *way* before I start feeling mental effects and almost certainly well before I start being impaired. Fizzy legs do *not* feel good or right, I do not like it Sam-I-Am, and it is damn near immediate for me upon alcohol consumption.
The addiction thing is a mild consideration, although I think my addiction dangers tend to be more mentally triggered than physically. (I am not allowed to own the game Minesweeper, for example, and part of why I don't gamble is exactly this fear, but the physical addiction around alcohol doesn't run in the family and I don't think I'm particularly prone to it.)
~Sor