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Oct. 16th, 2004 11:00 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sorcyressThis was written by a friend of mine, Kirby1024. I find it one of the best written arguments for Homosexual marrige I've seen. Read, enjoy.
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Currently, I'm going out with a beautiful girl. She's brilliant, sensitive, nice, she forgives me more than a few of my shortcomings. If I felt that I had the financial security, I'd propose to her in a heartbeat. As in, effective immediately.
I'm sure those of you who are married, or are in relationships have some idea of what I'm talking about. Sure, we argue, and the road is bumpy as much as it is smooth sailing (possibly moreso), but there's nothing I'd like more than to live with this woman for all my life, to consolidate everything I trust her with.
Now, let's try that again.
Currently, I'm going out with a beautiful guy. He's brilliant, sensitive, nice, he forgives me more than a few of my shortcomings. If I felt that I had the financial security, I'd propose to him in a heartbeat. As in, effective immediately.
I'm sure those of you who are married, or are in relationships have some idea of what I'm talking about. Sure, we argue, and the road is bumpy as much as it is smooth sailing (possibly moreso), but there's nothing I'd like more than to live with this man for all my life, to consolidate everything I trust him with.
As a bisexual, I know that I could just as easily be in the second scenario as the first. Now, noone here has a problem or issue with the first scenario. It's perfectly fine, it's all legal, no hassles whatsoever. The second scenario, however, all of a sudden has this major roadblock - I can't marry the man of my dreams. Sure, we could live together, do all the stuff that unmarried couples do, but I, with complete and total conviction, want to yell out to the world "This man is my man, and I love him with all my heart!". No maze of paperwork can say that quite as succinctly as me walking down the aisle with the man of my dreams.
You wouldn't say to me and my girlfriend "Don't worry about marriage, you can do all this other stuff and you'll get just the same thing!" No! You'd say that if we really loved each other that much to go through all that, we should just go and get married!
Why on earth would you deny that to me and my boyfriend? The situation is identical. I love this man just as much as I loved this woman. Both of my lovers love me back, and I know they do because they say they love me every day. Where is the difference? If you could see him/her through my eyes, you'd see that the only thing we want is to yell to the world our love for each other. S/he loves me. I love him/her. I want to raise a child with him/her. I want to have grandchildren with him/her. If s/he is infertile, we'll get help. If there's no way for us to have children together, we'll adopt. We're committed to having this family. And just like anyone wanting a family, we sure as hell want to get married first!
Surely, you wouldn't deny me and my husband this dream because we're both men?
*****
~Sorceress
MOOP!
*****
Currently, I'm going out with a beautiful girl. She's brilliant, sensitive, nice, she forgives me more than a few of my shortcomings. If I felt that I had the financial security, I'd propose to her in a heartbeat. As in, effective immediately.
I'm sure those of you who are married, or are in relationships have some idea of what I'm talking about. Sure, we argue, and the road is bumpy as much as it is smooth sailing (possibly moreso), but there's nothing I'd like more than to live with this woman for all my life, to consolidate everything I trust her with.
Now, let's try that again.
Currently, I'm going out with a beautiful guy. He's brilliant, sensitive, nice, he forgives me more than a few of my shortcomings. If I felt that I had the financial security, I'd propose to him in a heartbeat. As in, effective immediately.
I'm sure those of you who are married, or are in relationships have some idea of what I'm talking about. Sure, we argue, and the road is bumpy as much as it is smooth sailing (possibly moreso), but there's nothing I'd like more than to live with this man for all my life, to consolidate everything I trust him with.
As a bisexual, I know that I could just as easily be in the second scenario as the first. Now, noone here has a problem or issue with the first scenario. It's perfectly fine, it's all legal, no hassles whatsoever. The second scenario, however, all of a sudden has this major roadblock - I can't marry the man of my dreams. Sure, we could live together, do all the stuff that unmarried couples do, but I, with complete and total conviction, want to yell out to the world "This man is my man, and I love him with all my heart!". No maze of paperwork can say that quite as succinctly as me walking down the aisle with the man of my dreams.
You wouldn't say to me and my girlfriend "Don't worry about marriage, you can do all this other stuff and you'll get just the same thing!" No! You'd say that if we really loved each other that much to go through all that, we should just go and get married!
Why on earth would you deny that to me and my boyfriend? The situation is identical. I love this man just as much as I loved this woman. Both of my lovers love me back, and I know they do because they say they love me every day. Where is the difference? If you could see him/her through my eyes, you'd see that the only thing we want is to yell to the world our love for each other. S/he loves me. I love him/her. I want to raise a child with him/her. I want to have grandchildren with him/her. If s/he is infertile, we'll get help. If there's no way for us to have children together, we'll adopt. We're committed to having this family. And just like anyone wanting a family, we sure as hell want to get married first!
Surely, you wouldn't deny me and my husband this dream because we're both men?
*****
~Sorceress
MOOP!
