I am a person who tries really hard to be as out as possible, and that still leads to things like six months after starting bellringing one of my friends there awkwardly being all "so, uh...do you use they pronouns?"
I've been thinking hard about trying to train my tongue to say "hi I'm Kat I use they pronouns" as my introduction sentence, but it's _so much harder_ to do that as the marginalized, because then suddenly it's a Whole Thing. (I know that cis people doing this intro-with-pronouns also have a Whole Thing, but they can come at it more comfortably because it's not as fraught --it's "weird" to specifically say you use "she", but no one's going to try and prescriptivist at you.)
At any rate, I meant to say that I would be way more into the Coming Out Process if it was a one-and-done deal. Ideally as a party. Maybe I should just host a gender reveal party for one of my birthdays or something.
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on 2018-11-27 07:32 pm (UTC)I've been thinking hard about trying to train my tongue to say "hi I'm Kat I use they pronouns" as my introduction sentence, but it's _so much harder_ to do that as the marginalized, because then suddenly it's a Whole Thing. (I know that cis people doing this intro-with-pronouns also have a Whole Thing, but they can come at it more comfortably because it's not as fraught --it's "weird" to specifically say you use "she", but no one's going to try and prescriptivist at you.)
At any rate, I meant to say that I would be way more into the Coming Out Process if it was a one-and-done deal. Ideally as a party. Maybe I should just host a gender reveal party for one of my birthdays or something.
~Sor