[the post is very thought provoking; I wrote more than intended and hope I am not derailing.]
Nudity and sexualized situations are a strange intersection. I turn watching a movie on the couch with Playpartner into Playdate by stripping nude.
OTOH, showering with someone, 90% of the time, saves time and water.
If nudity is always sexualized* . . . yeah. And if all indoor time is nude and hence because of that, sexualized... yuck. (Been there. Demeaning after a time, and nigh dissociative.)
Ah, the "never have a partner" prediction from the jilted lover. Amazing how much it hurts even when one knows it's just a wild jab to injure.
Re sex, I try to run the translator in my brain, but every time you say 'sex' I think you are referring to bits-in-bits.
The concept of being enthusiastically into everything except bits-in-bits is very resonant to me - that was the defining line, for me, of "virgin,**" and I did not want to cross it.
*Which is of course most of society, to the point that 'get-naked' is often used as synonymn for necking and petting.
**yes, that would define lesbians as eternal virgins, which was part of why I decided to, in my mind, have sex with an admittedly poor choice of First.
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on 2012-08-24 06:45 pm (UTC)Nudity and sexualized situations are a strange intersection. I turn watching a movie on the couch with Playpartner into Playdate by stripping nude.
OTOH, showering with someone, 90% of the time, saves time and water.
If nudity is always sexualized* . . . yeah.
And if all indoor time is nude and hence because of that, sexualized... yuck. (Been there. Demeaning after a time, and nigh dissociative.)
Ah, the "never have a partner" prediction from the jilted lover. Amazing how much it hurts even when one knows it's just a wild jab to injure.
Re sex, I try to run the translator in my brain, but every time you say 'sex' I think you are referring to bits-in-bits.
The concept of being enthusiastically into everything except bits-in-bits is very resonant to me - that was the defining line, for me, of "virgin,**" and I did not want to cross it.
*Which is of course most of society, to the point that 'get-naked' is often used as synonymn for necking and petting.
**yes, that would define lesbians as eternal virgins, which was part of why I decided to, in my mind, have sex with an admittedly poor choice of First.