The context of that accusation is interesting because it could mean several completely different things: - Accusing T of "pretending" when T said T was exclusive. - Accusing T of "pretending" when T insisted ex be exclusive. - Accusing T of "pretending" to be loyal to monogamy as a norm in general, a member of team monogamy, or what have you.
All completely rude and unreasonable accusations, but quite different readings for a single phrase.
An important part of the poly critique seems to be how personal monogamy (being exclusive) and normative monogamy (insisting other people (at least one's partners) be exclusive) get mixed together in a way that implies they're inseparable. Maybe we need a word for "personally monogamous, but doesn't insist the same of partners".
Speaking of which, I do like the word "anamorous". I will store that in my word hat for later use.
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ninetydegrees
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on 2011-09-23 12:03 am (UTC)- Accusing T of "pretending" when T said T was exclusive.
- Accusing T of "pretending" when T insisted ex be exclusive.
- Accusing T of "pretending" to be loyal to monogamy as a norm in general, a member of team monogamy, or what have you.
All completely rude and unreasonable accusations, but quite different readings for a single phrase.
An important part of the poly critique seems to be how personal monogamy (being exclusive) and normative monogamy (insisting other people (at least one's partners) be exclusive) get mixed together in a way that implies they're inseparable. Maybe we need a word for "personally monogamous, but doesn't insist the same of partners".
Speaking of which, I do like the word "anamorous". I will store that in my word hat for later use.