Here's what I'd say, while trying not to get too mired in regret:
1. You have some control over how other people perceive you. And their perception of you now is largely accurate. Don't get too depressed about that, though.
2. On a related note, things you should do earlier than I did: Start working out (keep going, it will work), dress better, walk further or take the bus places (yes I know it's more inconvenient for you but do it anyways), go on dates.
3. Stop caring about your grades. Just stop it. You're using academics to ignore your other problems. Not even colleges care about grades as much as you think they do. You shouldn't count on the sort of luck I've actually ended up having (even if that's the sort of luck you'll actually have).
4. You should at least hear the word "unschooling" before college. On a more general note, maybe staying in public school is your best option, but you should give your options more serious consideration.
5. You think of yourself as a "perfectionist", but when that's true, it's a problem. Worse, most of the time your brand of perfectionism is just a mask for taking the path of least resistance. Seriously, snap out of it.
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ninetydegrees
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on 2011-02-10 10:11 pm (UTC)1. You have some control over how other people perceive you. And their perception of you now is largely accurate. Don't get too depressed about that, though.
2. On a related note, things you should do earlier than I did: Start working out (keep going, it will work), dress better, walk further or take the bus places (yes I know it's more inconvenient for you but do it anyways), go on dates.
3. Stop caring about your grades. Just stop it. You're using academics to ignore your other problems. Not even colleges care about grades as much as you think they do. You shouldn't count on the sort of luck I've actually ended up having (even if that's the sort of luck you'll actually have).
4. You should at least hear the word "unschooling" before college. On a more general note, maybe staying in public school is your best option, but you should give your options more serious consideration.
5. You think of yourself as a "perfectionist", but when that's true, it's a problem. Worse, most of the time your brand of perfectionism is just a mask for taking the path of least resistance. Seriously, snap out of it.