I'm truly glad I potentially helped. I'm sorry you have to go through the differently shitty other option, and I wish with all my heart that there was a third way --say, not assuming that all citizens are criminals and violating them before you let them on a plane.
I really appreciate the non-hug thing, and I send the same kind of good vibes back at you. (I am good for hugging now, but yeah, right after there was that little bit of "but now I feel dirty and don't want to be touched." Which is, you know. Totally unfair.)
I actually am more or less okay with the word female being applied to me, as long as it's done by people who actually understand, or are willing to understand, that my gender is more complex than that. I consider myself to be a cisbodied multiplygendered person, which I define to mean as having many different mental genders which may or may not feel right at any given moment, but pretty much always being okay about being in a body that has breasts and a vagina. I don't know if this makes my whole genderqueer thing a scam, except sometimes there are days where I really just don't feel like a girl, or anything close, and wish the world could see me the same way.
You may use whatever pronouns you would like for me. She and her are fine, so are he and his, so are e and hir and zie or sie. I will not be offended by you --my big problem with the agent was that she was a complete stranger to me, and yet felt entitled to assign me a gender. I get a _lot_ bitchier about the female thing when I feel it's being done by people who don't get why maintaining the binary is hurtful.
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ninetydegrees
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on 2010-11-19 08:49 am (UTC)I really appreciate the non-hug thing, and I send the same kind of good vibes back at you. (I am good for hugging now, but yeah, right after there was that little bit of "but now I feel dirty and don't want to be touched." Which is, you know. Totally unfair.)
I actually am more or less okay with the word female being applied to me, as long as it's done by people who actually understand, or are willing to understand, that my gender is more complex than that. I consider myself to be a cisbodied multiplygendered person, which I define to mean as having many different mental genders which may or may not feel right at any given moment, but pretty much always being okay about being in a body that has breasts and a vagina. I don't know if this makes my whole genderqueer thing a scam, except sometimes there are days where I really just don't feel like a girl, or anything close, and wish the world could see me the same way.
You may use whatever pronouns you would like for me. She and her are fine, so are he and his, so are e and hir and zie or sie. I will not be offended by you --my big problem with the agent was that she was a complete stranger to me, and yet felt entitled to assign me a gender. I get a _lot_ bitchier about the female thing when I feel it's being done by people who don't get why maintaining the binary is hurtful.
~Sor