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sorcyressYou do realize that the question meme goes on forever, right? At any rate, here are the questions Ross asked me!
Would you be so kind as to give a name of some sort to and a sentence or two for each of your (publicly recognized, and already defined) 1d6 boyfriends?
1d6? Pfft. 2d4+1 by last count. Yeah. Yeeeah. Although it really has settled out to about five boys who I am dating1, plus a handful of friends who I kiss occasionally.
And real answer: No, because there would probably be drama, since I'm a little behind in my checking-in with people to make sure that the relationships I think I have are the same as the relationships people think they have with me. And, I mean, at least one of them is not publicly out.
I will totes gossip with you via IM if you'd like sometime. SCANDAL OMG!
I'm not sure if you've ever talked about what your mom thinks about the poly lifestyle... It's sure to have come up. If you at liberty to share -- what is her stance (especially as it applies to you)?
As far as I can tell, my mom is totes cool with it. This is a woman, after all, who when I told her I was bisexual, responded with "That's nice, don't have sex with girls either". My mother is remarkably chill with a lot of my life, which I seriously appreciate.
I'm pretty sure she recognizes it as not just a phase, and some of her friends are poly, so she's come to recognize some of the "how it works" and is totally willing to snark on bad poly with me. Every once in a while, there is a little undercurrent of "well, maybe you're just doing the fifties version of dating, and will eventually settle down with one person", but not often, and she's good at correcting herself.
Maybe she will leave a comment with more thoughts. Who knows! :O
Will a trip to Pittsburgh be off your agenda now that you're more easterly?
...kinda? Unfortunately? We wound up being in Chicago for longer than I expected, and it threw off some of my plans, and right now, I am in crazy NEED TO GET THINGS DONE mode, since mom wants my room empty before I leave for the semester, so that she doesn't have to worry about my room and moving next May. So I'm losing out on a lot of my plans due to OMG THINGS TO DO.
I'm sorry. :(
What is your favorite holiday and why?
All Hallows or New Years. I dress up and go trick-or-treating every single Halloween, and the past couple I've followed it up with Rocky Horror --damn good night.
New Years Eve is of course the biggest party of the year. Mom hosts an *awesome* New Years, and it makes me feel homey and happy.
You are so social and butterfly-y... I know you talk about it at length -- but can you distill down your thoughts on why you consider yourself introverted?
...Because ohmygod, do people overwhelm me. The fandom is easier, but conventions need to be balanced with escaping to a low-social environment, or my brain will implode and I will go break down somewhere quiet for a few hours.
Mostly the trick is just that I find myself with strong opinions on what constitutes good social vs bad social, and I need to balance them. A lot of things count as bad social, including most interactions with friends --of special note is the fact that I am fairly empathic, so the moment a group's collective mood starts to go down, mine crashes and burns as well.
(My future roommate suffers from the same problem, I believe, which will probably lead to some...interesting situations if we feedback against each other.)
Generally, the more clearly I understand my relationship with someone, the less of a toll it takes on me in terms of social energy. So, I actually make a relatively good store clerk, because I'm quite good at dealing with people who are definitely Just Strangers (and indeed, now that I think of it, this might have been part of why creepy guy from work last summer sketched me out so much --because the relationship he seemed to have towards me did not line up with the relationship I knew I had towards him.)
Copying from you: Why? (As in the stand alone, all by itself, Why?)
Because I can, 'cause no one can stop me,
'cause it makes up for things I've done
'Cause I'm addicted to bad ideas
And all the beauty in this world.
(Answering in song lyrics is like totes pretentious, right? 'sashame, mostly because I really seriously love the phrase "Addicted to Bad Ideas", and use it as a definition for my life often, like "Terminal Optimist".)
In a more general sense, because I can lead a life that is easy, or I can lead a life that is interesting. I choose interesting, and that's why I don't fight down my differences, and why I let myself ignore fashion and enjoy things I like and such.
Mom bought me a button years ago, that I try to live by --"Better weird than dull". It's a good way to be.
How do you deal with fear in general or specific?
Depends on the type of fear.
Creeped out fear, from reading scary stories, is dealt with by following the children's laws, chief among them hide yourself fully under the cover and you are safe. My primary rule for all horror (and I yell at people in movies ALL THE TIME for this one) is to get your back against something, so nothing can get you from behind. I check rooms, and make sure there is no space for a human sized thing in there --anything else, I can handle.
And above all, I remember one thing: That I have a serial killer soulbond who will cheerfully remind me that, he is scarier than anything else out there. And more importantly, he'll remind me that, as much as I like to pretend I'm not deranged, I am scarier than he.
For phobias, well...as far as I can tell, I'm only really phobic of "mammals smaller than rabbits/things that scurry". Which pretty much primarily just means rats, mice, and cockroaches, though I *really* don't like those bugs with all those legs that _fucking roll when they walk_2, and I wish to have no interaction whatsoever with hamsters, gerbils, or guinea pigs.
Oh, and when I encounter such in the wild? Well, the last time I saw a mouse, it was about thirty feet away at the end of the hallway, darting into a room, and I froze solid for a good minute and a half. I managed to walk, shaking, down the dead center of the hall (assuming the terrifying beast would prefer to edge along the wall --one exception to my horror movie rule) and practically ran down the stairs and out to the street.
Mice are fucking *terrifying*. Yes, I am a complete fifties housewife.
Mental fear --what I normally call more "insecurity"-- is the whole category of things like "oh god, all my boys are going to leave me" and "I will never be a writer" and "the science museum thinks I'm an idiot and hates me". I don't really cope with it so much as go "stifle stifle stifle stifle BREAKDOWN stifle stifle repeat". Because I am awesome like that.
(Not totally true --I am attempting to slowly notice the egregiously bad parts of my insecurities and say "you have no power over me" at them. It...goes.)
How do you define success?
What kind of success? My success? Someone else's success? Success is when you're good at stuff, I guess. Helpful, I know!
I consider people to be successful when they have figured out how to get paid for things they enjoy doing. Or are basically having a good time of things in general. It's not something I think about a lot --I don't really care so much for success as enjoying the hell out of my life. Faffing is okay as long as I'm happy and making other people happy.
*I* will not be successful at life until I do, in fact, have David Tennant and Dogma-era Alan Rickman available to nude jello wrestle for my amusement. I would pay them handsomely, they're actors, they'll probably be up for it, right?
...I would settle for ruling the world, of course.
Yayyyyy!
~Sor
MOOP!
1: Or boyfriends with or have serious-type relationships with, or what have you.
2: Do you *really* want to click that link? *mgrin*
Would you be so kind as to give a name of some sort to and a sentence or two for each of your (publicly recognized, and already defined) 1d6 boyfriends?
1d6? Pfft. 2d4+1 by last count. Yeah. Yeeeah. Although it really has settled out to about five boys who I am dating1, plus a handful of friends who I kiss occasionally.
And real answer: No, because there would probably be drama, since I'm a little behind in my checking-in with people to make sure that the relationships I think I have are the same as the relationships people think they have with me. And, I mean, at least one of them is not publicly out.
I will totes gossip with you via IM if you'd like sometime. SCANDAL OMG!
I'm not sure if you've ever talked about what your mom thinks about the poly lifestyle... It's sure to have come up. If you at liberty to share -- what is her stance (especially as it applies to you)?
As far as I can tell, my mom is totes cool with it. This is a woman, after all, who when I told her I was bisexual, responded with "That's nice, don't have sex with girls either". My mother is remarkably chill with a lot of my life, which I seriously appreciate.
I'm pretty sure she recognizes it as not just a phase, and some of her friends are poly, so she's come to recognize some of the "how it works" and is totally willing to snark on bad poly with me. Every once in a while, there is a little undercurrent of "well, maybe you're just doing the fifties version of dating, and will eventually settle down with one person", but not often, and she's good at correcting herself.
Maybe she will leave a comment with more thoughts. Who knows! :O
Will a trip to Pittsburgh be off your agenda now that you're more easterly?
...kinda? Unfortunately? We wound up being in Chicago for longer than I expected, and it threw off some of my plans, and right now, I am in crazy NEED TO GET THINGS DONE mode, since mom wants my room empty before I leave for the semester, so that she doesn't have to worry about my room and moving next May. So I'm losing out on a lot of my plans due to OMG THINGS TO DO.
I'm sorry. :(
What is your favorite holiday and why?
All Hallows or New Years. I dress up and go trick-or-treating every single Halloween, and the past couple I've followed it up with Rocky Horror --damn good night.
New Years Eve is of course the biggest party of the year. Mom hosts an *awesome* New Years, and it makes me feel homey and happy.
You are so social and butterfly-y... I know you talk about it at length -- but can you distill down your thoughts on why you consider yourself introverted?
...Because ohmygod, do people overwhelm me. The fandom is easier, but conventions need to be balanced with escaping to a low-social environment, or my brain will implode and I will go break down somewhere quiet for a few hours.
Mostly the trick is just that I find myself with strong opinions on what constitutes good social vs bad social, and I need to balance them. A lot of things count as bad social, including most interactions with friends --of special note is the fact that I am fairly empathic, so the moment a group's collective mood starts to go down, mine crashes and burns as well.
(My future roommate suffers from the same problem, I believe, which will probably lead to some...interesting situations if we feedback against each other.)
Generally, the more clearly I understand my relationship with someone, the less of a toll it takes on me in terms of social energy. So, I actually make a relatively good store clerk, because I'm quite good at dealing with people who are definitely Just Strangers (and indeed, now that I think of it, this might have been part of why creepy guy from work last summer sketched me out so much --because the relationship he seemed to have towards me did not line up with the relationship I knew I had towards him.)
Copying from you: Why? (As in the stand alone, all by itself, Why?)
Because I can, 'cause no one can stop me,
'cause it makes up for things I've done
'Cause I'm addicted to bad ideas
And all the beauty in this world.
(Answering in song lyrics is like totes pretentious, right? 'sashame, mostly because I really seriously love the phrase "Addicted to Bad Ideas", and use it as a definition for my life often, like "Terminal Optimist".)
In a more general sense, because I can lead a life that is easy, or I can lead a life that is interesting. I choose interesting, and that's why I don't fight down my differences, and why I let myself ignore fashion and enjoy things I like and such.
Mom bought me a button years ago, that I try to live by --"Better weird than dull". It's a good way to be.
How do you deal with fear in general or specific?
Depends on the type of fear.
Creeped out fear, from reading scary stories, is dealt with by following the children's laws, chief among them hide yourself fully under the cover and you are safe. My primary rule for all horror (and I yell at people in movies ALL THE TIME for this one) is to get your back against something, so nothing can get you from behind. I check rooms, and make sure there is no space for a human sized thing in there --anything else, I can handle.
And above all, I remember one thing: That I have a serial killer soulbond who will cheerfully remind me that, he is scarier than anything else out there. And more importantly, he'll remind me that, as much as I like to pretend I'm not deranged, I am scarier than he.
For phobias, well...as far as I can tell, I'm only really phobic of "mammals smaller than rabbits/things that scurry". Which pretty much primarily just means rats, mice, and cockroaches, though I *really* don't like those bugs with all those legs that _fucking roll when they walk_2, and I wish to have no interaction whatsoever with hamsters, gerbils, or guinea pigs.
Oh, and when I encounter such in the wild? Well, the last time I saw a mouse, it was about thirty feet away at the end of the hallway, darting into a room, and I froze solid for a good minute and a half. I managed to walk, shaking, down the dead center of the hall (assuming the terrifying beast would prefer to edge along the wall --one exception to my horror movie rule) and practically ran down the stairs and out to the street.
Mice are fucking *terrifying*. Yes, I am a complete fifties housewife.
Mental fear --what I normally call more "insecurity"-- is the whole category of things like "oh god, all my boys are going to leave me" and "I will never be a writer" and "the science museum thinks I'm an idiot and hates me". I don't really cope with it so much as go "stifle stifle stifle stifle BREAKDOWN stifle stifle repeat". Because I am awesome like that.
(Not totally true --I am attempting to slowly notice the egregiously bad parts of my insecurities and say "you have no power over me" at them. It...goes.)
How do you define success?
What kind of success? My success? Someone else's success? Success is when you're good at stuff, I guess. Helpful, I know!
I consider people to be successful when they have figured out how to get paid for things they enjoy doing. Or are basically having a good time of things in general. It's not something I think about a lot --I don't really care so much for success as enjoying the hell out of my life. Faffing is okay as long as I'm happy and making other people happy.
*I* will not be successful at life until I do, in fact, have David Tennant and Dogma-era Alan Rickman available to nude jello wrestle for my amusement. I would pay them handsomely, they're actors, they'll probably be up for it, right?
...I would settle for ruling the world, of course.
Yayyyyy!
~Sor
MOOP!
1: Or boyfriends with or have serious-type relationships with, or what have you.
2: Do you *really* want to click that link? *mgrin*
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on 2010-08-19 04:04 am (UTC)no subject
on 2010-08-19 04:12 am (UTC)1) So, the Pie Shop has pretty much exploded into a ball of flames and woe. Where you hanging out these days? More options for stalking you can't possibly be a bad thing.
2) I'm gonna be 21 soon and able to legally buy the boozahols. Recommendations?
2a) How does one make a kick in the head again? I know I've learned this like eight times, but I forget. :(
3) How goes living with Jake?
3a) Hey, put Jake on the line a sec! Hey Jake? How goes living with Mek? Awesome, thanks, get the hell off my clone's computer now.
3aa) Jake knows you're Mek, right? Have I ruined everything forever?
3aaa) Are these sub-notes getting ridiculous?
3b) Hell, how's living away from the parents working out in general?
4) Can I have a pony?
4a) Please?
4b) I promise I'll feed it!
5) five!
6) Why is Whimsy glaring at me? What did I do? What did I do?!?!
7) How goes acting? I haven't heard anything on that front in a while, which is worrying and stuff.
~Sor
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on 2010-10-11 10:54 pm (UTC)no subject
on 2010-08-19 08:21 am (UTC)no subject
on 2010-08-21 03:03 am (UTC)1) What is your stance on skub? Pro? Anti? (You may have to look up the Perry Bible Fellowship comic to get the reference)
2) What would you like to be reincarnated as?
3) Who *did* put the bop on the bop-she-bop-she-bop, anyways?
4) How's S.n been lately? I've been a little iffy about checking.
5) So, my house has been having an (extremely minor) lice scare. How badly is your head itching right now?
~Sor
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on 2010-08-22 12:26 am (UTC)veh? You haven't asked me THAT many questions have you? Anyway...
1) What is your stance on skub? Pro? Anti? (You may have to look up the Perry Bible Fellowship comic to get the reference)
Anti. Clearly, the Pro Skudites are an aggressive brutish lot, and I want nothing to do with them.
2) What would you like to be reincarnated as?
My initial instinct was to go for an Orca. However, after giving it some more thought, I think I would be happier as a small, agile, very adept-at-tree-climbing monkey. I *love* to climb trees.
3) Who *did* put the bop on the bop-she-bop-she-bop, anyways?
I'm not sure, but whoever they are, I have a sudden, inexplicable urge to shake their hand.
4) How's S.n been lately? I've been a little iffy about checking.
It's probably a good idea you put this question second to last, lest I ramble on and on until your ear falls off...
After a very pronounced slow start, the Sixth Age seems to be coming of, well, age. We seem to be getting more traffic than we were a few months back. We still have slow days on a semi regular basis but it's noticeably busier (though not quite at peak levels) now. WGARS seems to be having a pleasant, mild resurgence. Though the current RS thread is almost a year old. Can you believe that? One thing I have noticed is that the mod presence is much more subtle these days. "Official" moderator actions are very few and far between now. Most likely just a symptom of ther being less people and of course that Sluggites tend to be pretty well behaved in the first place.
And you should never feel iffy about checking Sluggy.Net. Ever. =P (Although, I totally understand if you are wary due spoilers for The Comic, particularly now, as a [i]lot[/i] has happened in the past year or two Story-wise.)
5) So, my house has been having an (extremely minor) lice scare. How badly is your head itching right now?
Sorry to hear that, but not at all. My dandruff shampoo takes care of that. (In addition to being Xenomorph repellent...)
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on 2010-08-19 10:19 am (UTC)But i survived, 'cause that's just pictures of the buggers... never ever ask me about the Great Millipede Plague (to rival the bibical sort, man) that hit the basement that one summer... wow...
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on 2010-08-19 02:59 pm (UTC)1. What's the latest musical artist you've discovered/become a fan of?
2. What browser do you use? What's the thing you like most about it?
3. What's one topic you wish you knew more about?
4. What are your favorite pizza toppings?
5. If it were socially acceptable in any and all situations to wear clothing from any historical era or fictional culture, would you dress differently than you do now? How?
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on 2010-08-19 09:12 pm (UTC)I am not totally sure where your dorm is for this year, but it will likely be not more than a mile from me.. so whenever you need to, come to my place :)
Also, if you have the energy/time.. questions for me?
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on 2010-08-22 08:38 pm (UTC)Except it's a standard action movie trope that if a bad guy (or less commonly, the hero) is behind a door/wall/etc., Badass Good Guy (or again less commonly, Badass Bad Guy) can just shoot/punch/etc. through the barrier. I see no reason why this ability doesn't extend to creepy things, especially really big or little monsters.
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on 2010-08-24 08:07 am (UTC)So... questions?