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[sorcyress]

At Arisia, zyxwvut pulled me aside to give me some fairly valuable advice, which I have tucked away in the back corner of my head and done my best to remember when I need to.

It occurred to me this morning that really, if I strip the advice of names and situations, I have something much more valuable, a piece of advice that could apply to an awful lot of my life. In essence, don't let the stuff you can't change affect your ability to deal with the stuff you can.¹

The past two days have been rife with things that I can't change in the slightest. Hell, so has the past week, to a certain extent, the past month. I'm not enjoying where² I am at the moment, and while I love all of you, I feel like nothing more than withdrawing forever.

And so here we are. Deep breaths.

Don't let the stuff I can't change fuck up the stuff I can. It's a plan, I guess. I do good with plans.

~Sor
MOOP!

1: And really, that might not have been what Eric thought he was saying, but that's the message I got out of it. Lo, how wondrous to watch language change!

2: In an internal sense. Camberville is still > everywhere else, ever.

Comments

[blaisepascal]

Sounds like the Serenity Prayer: Like a Leaf in the Wind... Um, no...

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference."

[tirerim.livejournal.com]

And then there's Calvin's version: "[I pray for] The strength to change what I can, the inability to accept what I can't, and the incapacity to tell the difference."

[crystalpyramid]

I'm fond of my friend verdigrisdream's neopagan version: “The gods grant me the unyielding will to change the things I can, the unyielding will to change the things I can’t, and the incapacity to know the difference.”

[londo.livejournal.com]

For a moment, I thought you were referring to John Calvin, and that made me blink.

[mogwit.livejournal.com]

...and then there's the Albert Ellis/REBT approach: strive to change those unfortunate things you can change, accept what you cannot change, and learn the difference between the two.