...do I *ever* love drag. I'm not good at it --my face is girlish,....
I have a very masculine facial structure, and was, until only a couple of years ago, frequently mistaken for a boy, especially when my dress was more utilitarian. I believe this has caused me to move towards a more feminine mode of dress, since I have a rather hetronormative identity.
My go-by name (whether Herbert or Herbert-yes-you-heard-that-correctly) doesn't help to that extent, either, but both tends to be interpreted as a queer signal, despite my completely vanilla gender/sexuality identification. Which of course leads frequently to hilarity. I think it does help me meet nifty people in a way that if I went by my given name wouldn't happen. Blessings from the unintended, indeed.
I second the comment about the hats. Though Awesome hats will work just as well as Ridiculous hats, I find. I do both.
Sometimes I feel guilty for being so normal. ....female/female, hetero, with no strong kinks (just a generalist's interest in variety), defaultly monoamorous. I even tend to fit into stereotypical gender roles, what with the whole cooking and organizational things, liking to do things for others over myself, fiber arts, appreciating chivalry, having an arm to hold when walking with a gentleman (yourself included), liking to dance with boys and being shy to ask people (especially those I don't know well) to dance, not liking to walk home alone late at night, etc. It just feels so out of place among so many of my friends. I feel like I'm a weaker person for it.
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ninetydegrees
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on 2009-10-20 12:31 am (UTC)I have a very masculine facial structure, and was, until only a couple of years ago, frequently mistaken for a boy, especially when my dress was more utilitarian. I believe this has caused me to move towards a more feminine mode of dress, since I have a rather hetronormative identity.
My go-by name (whether Herbert or Herbert-yes-you-heard-that-correctly) doesn't help to that extent, either, but both tends to be interpreted as a queer signal, despite my completely vanilla gender/sexuality identification. Which of course leads frequently to hilarity. I think it does help me meet nifty people in a way that if I went by my given name wouldn't happen. Blessings from the unintended, indeed.
I second the comment about the hats. Though Awesome hats will work just as well as Ridiculous hats, I find. I do both.
Sometimes I feel guilty for being so normal. ....female/female, hetero, with no strong kinks (just a generalist's interest in variety), defaultly monoamorous. I even tend to fit into stereotypical gender roles, what with the whole cooking and organizational things, liking to do things for others over myself, fiber arts, appreciating chivalry, having an arm to hold when walking with a gentleman (yourself included), liking to dance with boys and being shy to ask people (especially those I don't know well) to dance, not liking to walk home alone late at night, etc.
It just feels so out of place among so many of my friends. I feel like I'm a weaker person for it.
Love,
Herbert.