you know, a lot of those reasons were the same that i had before i was in a serious relationship. there is no reason why you need to have sex if you don't want to. in my first relationship we waited for 2.5 years before we really talked about it. so many people thought we were weird for doing so, but in all honesty, until you are ready, there is no reason to even think about it. you want to be comfortable in the situation you are in and be comfortable with yourself before you can share yourself with someone else in that way.
sex it scary. (admittedly fun, but still scary) my current boyfriend and i were faced with the issue when we decided to become sexually active together, that we had both been with someone other than each other. so i had to go through the whole getting tested for STDs (he did as well). we were both clean because we were very safe with our past partners, but its still a weird thought that you have to check on those things even if you have been with only one other partner.
and yes, sex can be gross sometimes. and it can hurt. especially the first time.
while it isn't my personal choice, i really admire those who choose to abstain from sex. whether it be for religious reasons or otherwise. and in someways i feel that those people are more apt to know who they are because they are comfortable letting people know they they have chosen to make that decision and don't mind being 'different" to some.
i have never regretted my decision to have sex. but i still prefer cuddling over it any day ;).
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
ninetydegrees
no subject
on 2008-01-30 03:25 pm (UTC)sex it scary. (admittedly fun, but still scary) my current boyfriend and i were faced with the issue when we decided to become sexually active together, that we had both been with someone other than each other. so i had to go through the whole getting tested for STDs (he did as well). we were both clean because we were very safe with our past partners, but its still a weird thought that you have to check on those things even if you have been with only one other partner.
and yes, sex can be gross sometimes. and it can hurt. especially the first time.
while it isn't my personal choice, i really admire those who choose to abstain from sex. whether it be for religious reasons or otherwise. and in someways i feel that those people are more apt to know who they are because they are comfortable letting people know they they have chosen to make that decision and don't mind being 'different" to some.
i have never regretted my decision to have sex. but i still prefer cuddling over it any day ;).