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This bit may very well be important: This is my livejournal. It is for me posting my own thoughts, however often I would like, on whichever topics I see fit.
From this point forth, no one is allowed to attempt to censor my entries in any way1, and if they try, I will just laugh, and continue to write as I see fit.Fuck you, Curry, It's my moviejournal, and I'll poutpost if I want to.2
That said, let's talk censorship!
Personally, I'm pretty hugely against it. I believe in a certain degree of protecting the children, but NOT by bowlderizing existing works into something less, and NOT by just banning things with no explanation --trust me, children are often as curious as the sterotypical cat, and telling them they *can't* read something means at least one of them is going to try.
No, when it comes to children, I'm a pretty firm believer in the idea that, to minimize their exposure to objectional materials, the parents should actually keep an eye on what media is introduced to their kids, not permit the kids to read/watch/play/whatever they object to, and give them the brief explanation of why they don't want the kids to look at it. You know...basic parenting? Don't want your child to play "Half-Resident Kill 4: Kill all the bloody zombies with your big gun3"? Don't let them buy a copy! If they do anyways, take it away from them, and punish them. If all their friends have a copy and they're the only ones who don't, tough, ultimately it is your job to make sure your child isn't exposed to stuff you don't want them to see.
The first corollary to this rule is that you've got to not underestimate your child's maturity level, and more importantly, to not understand your teenager's maturity level. Also, as with just about everything else communication is kinda key here.
The second corollary to this rule is you have to understand and accept that eventually there will come a point where your child is pretty much a grown-up, and they can make their own decisions about stuff. At that point, further censoring is just gonna piss your kid off. Furthermore, if your kid/teen *really* wants to be reading/watching/webbing/whatever something, they're going to manage it. Unless you keep 'em under constant supervision, they're going to be able to get *something* by you.
But kids besides, censorship is one of those sucky things that piss off mature, reasonably intelligent adults4. Moreso because it often gets confused about a very basic concept --not all things are meant to be enjoyed by all audiences, and so it tends to whine about children seeing something that's not meant for them *anyways*.
Take porn, for instance. I've read and enjoyed some reasonably good and some damn funny porn. I wouldn't want my sister reading it though, even if she might also find it good or funny, because she's still young enough that I believe in protecting her sexuality7, and that she shouldn't see it. Just because it's not meant for all audiences doesn't make it any less good or funny
So that's external censorship, and as I've kinda implied, I think it's bad. But there's another kind of censorship, there's internal censorship, and while I'm not necessarily a fan of it for myself, I accept the validity of people wanting to keep different parts of themselves and their lives private.
Though I try to do it less, I'm still as cryptic as I was when I started livejournaling, and I've always been one to bottle up my emotions and feelings and, to a certain extent, my world and history. This is doubly true when it comes to relationships, for various assorted reasons --I've never been hugely clear to anyone but my Beloveds who I'm dating at any given point, which is probably unhealthy or something.
I do find it interesting what I do choose to share or not share, and moreso, who I choose to share or not share it with. I've had two specific 'awww, sosweet!' moments with my boyfriend in the last couple weeks, one, something sweet and probably a little private, that he said, the other, something sweet, and probably a little private that he did. For reasons somewhat unclear to me, one of my immediate reactions to the first8 was the thought that "I can't wait to get V on Skype or something so I can tell her about this insane cuteness".
The second, for reasons somewhat unclear to me, elicited the reaction of "this is mine, and mine alone, and I am not going to tell *anybody*, because it is too good and glorious to share" despite, if anything, being the significantly less serious of the two. Hell, in normal circles, it would be a bit of a bragging rights circumstance. Why should this one be the one I'm more inclined to keep as mine and mine alone?
My original thought was that the latter was an action, and as listening to bits of tick, tick...BOOM! repeatedly has taught me, actions speak louder than words. He can say all manner of sweet things (and he does, which makes me feel quite warmfuzzy and inevitably rather undeserving -stupid insecurities!) but that extra step of making my brain break in the most delightful way without having to say anything at all...yeah, that's reasonably special.
My more recent thought on the subject is that it is the more silly of the two moments, and I do pretty much function on a non-serious level whenever possible. So silly little things can often mean more to me --after all, everyone gets the awesomeness of good serious conversations. Not everyone gets the awesomeness of gorgeous silly things.
Soyeah. Self-censorship is kinda intriguing. I've spent much of the last few years trying to break my walls some, and be more open with who I am, and while I'm nowhere near as good as it as I feel I should be sometimes, I'm certainly getting a lot more honest about myself and my world.
That being said, I might as well end this post by shooting myself in the foot and opening an honestybox.9 Ask me a question! I promise an honest answer. Answer not guranteed to be posted in livejournal, the Sorcyress reserves the right to answer with "I don't feel comfortable telling you that because...", NOT limited to one per customer, Reading small print has been proven hazerdous to your eyes
~Sor
MOOP!
1: There is actually an exception to this rule --if I give out information about you and you alone that you would rather not be public, you may contact me and tell me I'm an insensitive bitch. (This has happened before, with Aly's last name, Alex's school, Erika's age, stuff like that) You can't make me take down anything else without a damn good defense
2: To be perfectly honest, about ninety percent of all my references ever are Rocky Horror call lines. So, yes, I know that this was a song first, but when I reference it, I'm not referring to the song, I'm referring to Riff-Raff glaring at Frank.
3: Your big gun...IfyouknowwhatImean. C'mon, I can't have been the only one who thought that, can I? (Answer: Yes. Yes I can.)
4: Mature, reasonably intelligent, adults who still use words like 'sucky' to describe things. Sigh. One of these days I'll get around to make an active attempt to betterify my vocabulary. Until then, I think I'm stuck with things like faboo, and zohmgar, and boyf5
5: Boyf, pronounced...uh...boy-fff. Shortening of boyfriend that my brain has determined is totally awesome. Have not yet slipped up and said it in real life. Yet.
6: There is no footnote six
7: Teenaged and earlier sexuality is a different essay, which I won't go into here, to save space.
8: Well, first after going "zohmygod, *blushes fiercely* really?!" and smiling like my face was going to break.
9: This is half just because I'm a huge comment whore.10
10: ...also, a huge footnote whore.
From this point forth, no one is allowed to attempt to censor my entries in any way1, and if they try, I will just laugh, and continue to write as I see fit.
That said, let's talk censorship!
Personally, I'm pretty hugely against it. I believe in a certain degree of protecting the children, but NOT by bowlderizing existing works into something less, and NOT by just banning things with no explanation --trust me, children are often as curious as the sterotypical cat, and telling them they *can't* read something means at least one of them is going to try.
No, when it comes to children, I'm a pretty firm believer in the idea that, to minimize their exposure to objectional materials, the parents should actually keep an eye on what media is introduced to their kids, not permit the kids to read/watch/play/whatever they object to, and give them the brief explanation of why they don't want the kids to look at it. You know...basic parenting? Don't want your child to play "Half-Resident Kill 4: Kill all the bloody zombies with your big gun3"? Don't let them buy a copy! If they do anyways, take it away from them, and punish them. If all their friends have a copy and they're the only ones who don't, tough, ultimately it is your job to make sure your child isn't exposed to stuff you don't want them to see.
The first corollary to this rule is that you've got to not underestimate your child's maturity level, and more importantly, to not understand your teenager's maturity level. Also, as with just about everything else communication is kinda key here.
The second corollary to this rule is you have to understand and accept that eventually there will come a point where your child is pretty much a grown-up, and they can make their own decisions about stuff. At that point, further censoring is just gonna piss your kid off. Furthermore, if your kid/teen *really* wants to be reading/watching/webbing/whatever something, they're going to manage it. Unless you keep 'em under constant supervision, they're going to be able to get *something* by you.
But kids besides, censorship is one of those sucky things that piss off mature, reasonably intelligent adults4. Moreso because it often gets confused about a very basic concept --not all things are meant to be enjoyed by all audiences, and so it tends to whine about children seeing something that's not meant for them *anyways*.
Take porn, for instance. I've read and enjoyed some reasonably good and some damn funny porn. I wouldn't want my sister reading it though, even if she might also find it good or funny, because she's still young enough that I believe in protecting her sexuality7, and that she shouldn't see it. Just because it's not meant for all audiences doesn't make it any less good or funny
So that's external censorship, and as I've kinda implied, I think it's bad. But there's another kind of censorship, there's internal censorship, and while I'm not necessarily a fan of it for myself, I accept the validity of people wanting to keep different parts of themselves and their lives private.
Though I try to do it less, I'm still as cryptic as I was when I started livejournaling, and I've always been one to bottle up my emotions and feelings and, to a certain extent, my world and history. This is doubly true when it comes to relationships, for various assorted reasons --I've never been hugely clear to anyone but my Beloveds who I'm dating at any given point, which is probably unhealthy or something.
I do find it interesting what I do choose to share or not share, and moreso, who I choose to share or not share it with. I've had two specific 'awww, sosweet!' moments with my boyfriend in the last couple weeks, one, something sweet and probably a little private, that he said, the other, something sweet, and probably a little private that he did. For reasons somewhat unclear to me, one of my immediate reactions to the first8 was the thought that "I can't wait to get V on Skype or something so I can tell her about this insane cuteness".
The second, for reasons somewhat unclear to me, elicited the reaction of "this is mine, and mine alone, and I am not going to tell *anybody*, because it is too good and glorious to share" despite, if anything, being the significantly less serious of the two. Hell, in normal circles, it would be a bit of a bragging rights circumstance. Why should this one be the one I'm more inclined to keep as mine and mine alone?
My original thought was that the latter was an action, and as listening to bits of tick, tick...BOOM! repeatedly has taught me, actions speak louder than words. He can say all manner of sweet things (and he does, which makes me feel quite warmfuzzy and inevitably rather undeserving -stupid insecurities!) but that extra step of making my brain break in the most delightful way without having to say anything at all...yeah, that's reasonably special.
My more recent thought on the subject is that it is the more silly of the two moments, and I do pretty much function on a non-serious level whenever possible. So silly little things can often mean more to me --after all, everyone gets the awesomeness of good serious conversations. Not everyone gets the awesomeness of gorgeous silly things.
Soyeah. Self-censorship is kinda intriguing. I've spent much of the last few years trying to break my walls some, and be more open with who I am, and while I'm nowhere near as good as it as I feel I should be sometimes, I'm certainly getting a lot more honest about myself and my world.
That being said, I might as well end this post by shooting myself in the foot and opening an honestybox.9 Ask me a question! I promise an honest answer. Answer not guranteed to be posted in livejournal, the Sorcyress reserves the right to answer with "I don't feel comfortable telling you that because...", NOT limited to one per customer, Reading small print has been proven hazerdous to your eyes
~Sor
MOOP!
1: There is actually an exception to this rule --if I give out information about you and you alone that you would rather not be public, you may contact me and tell me I'm an insensitive bitch. (This has happened before, with Aly's last name, Alex's school, Erika's age, stuff like that) You can't make me take down anything else without a damn good defense
2: To be perfectly honest, about ninety percent of all my references ever are Rocky Horror call lines. So, yes, I know that this was a song first, but when I reference it, I'm not referring to the song, I'm referring to Riff-Raff glaring at Frank.
3: Your big gun...IfyouknowwhatImean. C'mon, I can't have been the only one who thought that, can I? (Answer: Yes. Yes I can.)
4: Mature, reasonably intelligent, adults who still use words like 'sucky' to describe things. Sigh. One of these days I'll get around to make an active attempt to betterify my vocabulary. Until then, I think I'm stuck with things like faboo, and zohmgar, and boyf5
5: Boyf, pronounced...uh...boy-fff. Shortening of boyfriend that my brain has determined is totally awesome. Have not yet slipped up and said it in real life. Yet.
6: There is no footnote six
7: Teenaged and earlier sexuality is a different essay, which I won't go into here, to save space.
8: Well, first after going "zohmygod, *blushes fiercely* really?!" and smiling like my face was going to break.
9: This is half just because I'm a huge comment whore.10
10: ...also, a huge footnote whore.
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And yay for Boyf catching on. We use it all the time down here.
Loves you,
~V~
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*GASP!* Did I pick it up from YOU then? No yay for boyf catching on! I think it sounds incredibly silly, I don't *want* it in my head. Getitout, getitout!
Lovesyoutoo!
~Sor
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childrenpeople are often as curious as the sterotypical cat, and telling them they *can't* read something meansat least one of them is going to trya lot, if not most, of them will try that much harder to read it." Fixed that for you. :Pthe parents should actually keep an eye on
This is good, and totally fine (to a point, of course). Too many people, though, want to censor things from other people and other people's kids, instead of just themselves and their own.
That killing-with-your-big-gun thing sounds exceedingly painful. For both the attackee and the attacker.
As for footnote 4, I can only respond with this:
I will reserve judgment on your line with footnote 7 until such time as footnote 7's essay has been written. I have thoughts here, but I'll hold them for now.
I think a better word for "internal censorship" is simply "privacy." For us Americans with that whole First Amendment thing, "censorship" carries negative connotations; "privacy" does not (unless, I guess, you happen to be one of those people who says if you haven't done anything wrong you have nothing to hide and so should hide nothing, which is complete BS). In my book privacy is okay (I guess also to a point - my theory is, don't be totally closed off from everyone; at the very least, choose one person (or two or ten, if you feel like spreading private things out so no one person knows everything) who you share with and don't hide everything from). We humans are nosy critters, though, and I guess can't much help but to want to butt in and know everything about everyone.
So..err..questions! Or, one question, since you specified just one, and I only have one anyway: 1) Who's this boyfffffff you speak of?
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I knew what you meant. :P I would have asked more if I had them, I just don't at this particular time. I do like
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Okay, well, 'dating' and 'stupidly crushing on' do tend to look very simelar, but we were just friends at that juncture of time!
And I figured you'd probably met him at some point or another, I just don't keep great track.
~Sor
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(Anonymous) 2012-03-25 08:37 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
And you can ask as many as you'd like. I fixed that.
The boyf (*winces*) in question is marcmagus --you can meet him over New Years, if you haven't before. I'm also officially complicated with a handful of people (catch me on IM). And then, well, there's the small matter of my drop dead gorgeous girlfriend...
~Sor
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What are your regrets?
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~Sor
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Who was asking/telling you to censor your god damned shit in the first place? (See what I did there?)
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My friend Larry got me into contech, actually. He's been working Balticon tech for bunches of years, and somehow, while him and mom and I were talking about tech in general (I did theatre tech in high school), he invited me along to Balticon to do tech in exchange for a free badge. I figured that this was a good deal.
Considering that that Balticon dragged me back into the fandom, reintroduced me to the boy that is currently my boyfriend, and got me more into tech, in general, this was a Really Good Thing.
(My best tech moment remains Arisia 08 --I was wandering around being bored, just chilling before my mom showed up. Our plan was to spend some time together, and relax and stuff.
A guy walks out of a ballroom and calls out "Does anyone know how to unfold a Fast Fold?"
I think I worked 20 or 30 hours that con. Oops.)
~Sor
MOOP!
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I learned the Matter out of Place acronym long after I started using it --it's not something I talk about as often anymore, but basically years ago on a forum, we had a "describe your perfect planet" thread, and I named mine MOOP!. I occasionally think of other things to do with it, and it's pretty much just a good place to live, where the people largely think like I do. Also, where I am queen, because everyone deserves to be queen (or king) of their own queendom.
Butyeah. It started just as a word to use, to represent me and mine. It's also the second easiest way to stalk all of my journals on LJ --searching for it as an interest gets one random journal, and a whole slew of secondary and character journals used by me and my clone.
The phrase I half-jokingly use is something along the lines of MOOP! --but is the other matter out of place, or am I?
~Sor
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Man, and this is totally not about censorship at all but my general gripe is at parents what whine & complain about the things their kids have access to (from TV to computer to candy) AND THEN HAVE THE STUFF RIGHT THERE & READILY ACCESSIBLE IN THE HOUSE THEY LIVE IN. Dude. You don't want your kids to have it, DON'T BUY IT. Ye gods. Get the computer & tv the eff out of their bedroom and stock the kitchen with healthy snacks if tha's what you want 'em to be eating. (and then they want the gov't to do something about protecting their precious babies from that Evil Pornography?? WTF? get some accountability, people! Who's the Growned Up here?? :P)
i can say this, of course, without being a total hypocrite (which you may have noticed was something i mentioned having issues with in that meemery >.>) because even though i allow them access to (hell, stock the freezer with) Hot Pockets & frozen meals, i still lock up the Halloween candy & dole it out to them one piece at a time. They don't watch commercial TV here and their computer is right over there in the computer nook *points*
Which is all off topic but clearly i needed to get that out of my system (again!). i thank you for the space in your elljay!
Also, my question is yonder in your other post *points yonder*
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Yeah.
~Sor
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:noes:
I was counting on that footnote!
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(Anonymous) 2012-03-28 12:53 am (UTC)(link)