I've been going through these posts for a little while for fun reading.
I know I'm occasionally guilty of this one (though I do think a: I have been a little less bad about it since you first posted this and b: I do try to limit the groping to people I know well and know won't mind, though sometimes I misjudge) but I really have to say, the sentiment behind it is something I keep feeling around New Year's happenings.
For me, I'd like to put up a true-for-me blanket statement of my own: Physical contact is never extended as courtesy, and just because you see physical contact between me and someone else, does not mean you are entitled to the same treatment.
I hate the sheer number of people who move in for hugs when this house is packed. It is not a polite greeting for me. I hug people I know well and have a desire to hug. I do not wish to hug people who I have no desire to hug. I hate that so many of the New Year's goers make a large thing about it when I wave off their hugs. I try to do this as kindly as possible, but honestly -- I'm not going to accept a hug that will make me uncomfortable for decorum's sake.
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I know I'm occasionally guilty of this one (though I do think a: I have been a little less bad about it since you first posted this and b: I do try to limit the groping to people I know well and know won't mind, though sometimes I misjudge) but I really have to say, the sentiment behind it is something I keep feeling around New Year's happenings.
For me, I'd like to put up a true-for-me blanket statement of my own: Physical contact is never extended as courtesy, and just because you see physical contact between me and someone else, does not mean you are entitled to the same treatment.
I hate the sheer number of people who move in for hugs when this house is packed. It is not a polite greeting for me. I hug people I know well and have a desire to hug. I do not wish to hug people who I have no desire to hug. I hate that so many of the New Year's goers make a large thing about it when I wave off their hugs. I try to do this as kindly as possible, but honestly -- I'm not going to accept a hug that will make me uncomfortable for decorum's sake.