I'll speak for myself, as I experience the same annoyance:
My problem is that the ladies are pairing when there are men available, but if two men are observed to be dancing together, a complaint will be made regardless of whether there were women available.
Yes, I have had it happen that, after first ascertaining that there were no ladies who seemed to wish to dance, I danced a waltz with another man, and then heard complaints that it was unfair to the ladies that we were dancing together.
If I'm expected not to dance with another man without checking to make sure all the ladies have partners first [and I am], the ladies could at least do me the courtesy of checking to see if it looks like all the gentlemen have partners before asking other ladies to dance. If I'm expected not to dance with another man regardless of whether there are unpartnered ladies, the ladies can damn well make sure all the man have partners before taking an action which will exclude a gentleman from the dance. This is just common courtesy.
Note that, as stated elsewhere, and as I hope to expand upon soon, I agree with your assessment of last weekend's situation and its implications: we shouldn't be frowning at people for opting to dance in same-sex couples at all.
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My problem is that the ladies are pairing when there are men available, but if two men are observed to be dancing together, a complaint will be made regardless of whether there were women available.
Yes, I have had it happen that, after first ascertaining that there were no ladies who seemed to wish to dance, I danced a waltz with another man, and then heard complaints that it was unfair to the ladies that we were dancing together.
If I'm expected not to dance with another man without checking to make sure all the ladies have partners first [and I am], the ladies could at least do me the courtesy of checking to see if it looks like all the gentlemen have partners before asking other ladies to dance. If I'm expected not to dance with another man regardless of whether there are unpartnered ladies, the ladies can damn well make sure all the man have partners before taking an action which will exclude a gentleman from the dance. This is just common courtesy.
Note that, as stated elsewhere, and as I hope to expand upon soon, I agree with your assessment of last weekend's situation and its implications: we shouldn't be frowning at people for opting to dance in same-sex couples at all.