My feeling is that my usual obliviousness is protective. That, especially in the "people casually putting an arm around me or whatever" category, a lot of these things are things that slide off me and I don't notice. Back with Ceretapost I realized after two weeks of "people don't do this nonsesnse to me - I wonder why?" that, well, yes they do, but I don't file it under sexual assault. A former coworker blocking my way out of a chair in his basement and trying to get me to kiss him before he realized he'd scared the bejesus out of me was filed under "the last time I was sailing." Walking across Buenos Aires at 1am rather than get back in the car with the cabbie who had tried to kiss me was filed under "Argentina" or possibly "yeah, accepting a driving tour from a cabbie wasn't clever."

I figure there are a lot of low level 'unwelcome attentions' that I simply don't [consciously] notice. And I worry that noticing them will make my life less enjoyable and actually less safe.